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The day we are dealing with this question is my ex the one. This is even saying that

question depresses me. We had someone write in, I have a friend who's been broken up with

his ex-girlfriend for two years but this Christmas he's talking about buying her an iPhone

and a Burberry coat. How do I tactfully tell my friend to snap out of it? Okay. In order

to even be going down that road with someone, you either have to be coming from one of these

places. The first is a scarcity mindset. Now a scarcity mindset says there's no one

out there like her. There may not be but there's definitely someone different. So that idea

of there's no one out there like her I find to be an insane idea especially no one out

there like who? Someone who doesn't want you? If that's the, if that's, there's no one

else out. I can find plenty of people out there who won't want you. So the idea that you've

lost someone really special is crazy when this person doesn't want to be with you. A relationship

involves two people. Secondly, you would have to be coming from a place of sheer laziness

of saying, you know what? I know that there's plenty of other people out there but I'm

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