Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

I explore this within myself a lot, how much is the past necessary.

And I keep coming to the conclusion that it's necessary, that becoming self-observational

understanding, I think that developing through a mindfulness-based meditation practice is incredibly

helpful because it actually helps us to fire up our brain in a new way that then allows for

self-observation throughout the day. There's no magic cushion.

There's no magic anything. The way I see it, we can't do something once and then expect my day

to look different magically because I've meditated in the morning. Yeah, there's some gains and some

peace, but if I'm not watching myself throughout the day, and if I don't train myself to watch myself

throughout the day, to watch my patterns, to watch the thoughts that are causing those emotional reactions.

And especially to see when I'm triggered, just when I'm having a big feeling about a current event.

Typically, the feeling is really big because it's about the meaning assigned to the event, the similarity of this now event based on my past experiences.

So there's always a reason why things are way bigger than they maybe ought to be logically in that moment.

And then that's where we dive in and give ourselves some new, either releasing the emotional valve,

soothing our own emotional wounds in that moment, not looking outside of anyone or anything else to make

us feel better. At least that's the way that I view it. We are social creatures as humans. We actually

benefited quite greatly from having tribes as we are evolving in terms of safety and division of labor.

So as I see it, we little end need relationships.

But I think what interdependence means to me is being able to be a self-reliant and resilient,

you know, a human meeting all my physical, emotional needs separately and then having

that shared space of relationship.

How does someone become interdependent if they've been so

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