Why You Screw It Up When Things Are Going Well with Gay Hendricks

Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore

Susie Moore

Society & Culture, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Philosophy, Life Coach, Motivational, Education, Personal Development, Life Coaching, Self-help, Mental Health

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🗓️ 10 April 2022

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Have you ever heard of the Oscar Curse? Neither had I until I read an article about how many actors screw up their lives after winning the golden statuette. What!? Wouldn't logic dictate otherwise? After more research, I made a connection to a popular self-help theory: self-sabotage is most common when life is at its best. In The Big Leap, best-selling author Gay Hendricks calls this the "upper-limit problem." So what is self-sabotage is this context exactly? What this means is we only feel c...

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0:00.0	Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.
0:07.0	The author you're about to hear from,
0:12.0	change my life and... The author you're about to hear from, Change My Life and Marriage.
0:15.5	This is not an understatement.
0:18.2	Let me ask you this.
0:19.2	Have you ever heard of the upper limit problem? It's spoken about a lot in coaching circles. And look I
0:26.4	hadn't either until I was reading this incredible book. It's one of my top books,
0:31.8	top, top reads, called The Big Leap,
0:36.1	written by a man called Gay Hendricks.
0:39.0	I was reading it by the pool in Miami.
0:41.3	It was before we moved here, we were on vacation, and in that exact moment, I was having an upper living problem. Life was good, right? I'm on vacation with my man, got my, you know breakfast, got the sun, you know, happy with life,
0:59.8	and I started a fight with Heath out of nowhere.
1:05.0	Stick with me here, okay? This makes sense.
1:07.0	An upper limit problem means,
1:09.0	an upper limit problem means essentially we only feel comfortable with things going really well in our lives for a certain period of time.
1:19.0	We then hit our set threshold of happiness.
1:23.3	Something inside of us says,
1:25.4	you don't deserve to be this happy.
1:27.8	It can't be this good.
1:31.0	The shoe has to drop, right? And then we do something entirely subconsciously
1:38.0	that cools our bliss and halts this delicious forward trajectory of more joy. This is our inner
1:46.0	saboteur. I loved having this conversation with gay Hendrix because he broke
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