Why You’re Not Having the Sex You Want (& How to Fix It)

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 17 April 2026

⏱️ 34 minutes

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In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating. ABOUT EMILY: Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. CONNECT: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily WANT MORE? Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides. Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to the LIVE 01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions 01:49 Valentine’s Day & 21 Years of Podcasting 02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together 04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained 05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym? 06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses 07:53 Is This Normal? 09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching 10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships 12:38 What is Compersion? 14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym 18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships 21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool) 23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors) 24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner 27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan 28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Okay, so if you've been listening to this show for a while, you know I'm not about random
0:03.2	sex toys or gimmicks. I'm about tools that actually support your pleasure, your communication, and your connection. Well, that's exactly why we created the shop, Sex with Emily's Store. Everything in there is curated by me and my team, and these are products I trust, I recommend to clients, and what tell my friends about. I do tell my friends about. It's what I talk about
0:20.9	all the time. Whether you're exploring solo pleasure, looking to reconnect with a partner,
0:24.8	or you really just want something body safe and beginner friendly. We've organized it so you
0:29.2	don't feel overwhelmed. People love the dame pillow for supported sex. The Magic Wand
0:34.2	waterproof. Oh my God, it's so good. Cray Vesper, massage candles, Joe-flavored
0:38.8	Loube, We Vibe Touch, clitoral vibrators. There's just so many things on there because pleasure
0:43.4	shouldn't be confusing. It should feel empowering. You can check it out at shop.com and find
0:49.5	something that supports where you are right now or just click the link in the show notes. Also,
0:55.0	keep an eye out for curated collections coming soon. You know what gets in the way of great sex more than anything?
1:00.6	Overthinking. It's that mental checklist, the distractions, the wait, what about the mess moment
1:05.7	that pulls you right out of your body. And that's exactly why I love common confidential.
1:10.2	Because they've thought about
1:11.4	the details so you don't have to. Their massage butter is so rich, so silky, and designed to keep
1:16.8	you present in sensation. It melts into the skin in a way that just feels effortless. So touch
1:22.2	because something you actually sink into, not rush through. Then there are the love towels.
1:27.2	They're super soft, absorb it,
1:28.8	and right there when you need them. No scrambling, no awkward pause, no break in the mood.
1:33.0	Because when those little interruptions disappear, your body can finally relax. And when you're
1:38.0	relaxed, you're more connected, more responsive, and way more open to pleasure. So whether
1:42.6	this is about deepening intimacy with a partner or reconnecting with your own
1:46.5	body, this is your reminder that the best experiences happen when you stay in the moment.
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