Missionary Isn’t Boring, You’re Just Doing It Wrong

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.3 • 6.8K Ratings

🗓️ 21 April 2026

⏱️ 33 minutes

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Summary

I know what you're thinking. Missionary? Really? But hear me out, because I genuinely believe missionary might be the most underrated position in existence, and the reason most people are bored by it has nothing to do with the position itself. It has everything to do with what they're not doing in it. In this episode, I'm breaking down every missionary myth, sharing the techniques that actually work for clitoral stimulation during penetration, and answering your listener's questions on everything from G-spot orgasms to asking your partner to bend you over the kitchen table. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why the porn version of penetrative sex works for only about 30% of vulva owners and what the rest of us actually need to get there, including the CAT technique that makes missionary the best position for clitoral stimulation • How to tell your partner you want them to dominate you, talk dirty, and bring more intensity to sex without making them feel like they've been doing it wrong this whole time • Why incorporating a vibrator into partnered sex is one of the best things you can do for your sex life, and how to ask for it even if you're a people pleaser who's spent years putting everyone else's comfort before your own pleasure This Episode is sponsored by... Check out Magic Wand at shop.sexwithemily.com/magicwand More Dr. Emily: • Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5 • Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! • Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. • The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure • Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website • Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube • Let’s text: Sign up here • Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Chapters: 0:00 - Intro 1:03 - What's Actually Great About Missionary (That Most People Miss) 5:26 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Is Boring 8:21 - The CAT Technique: Best Missionary Position for Clitoral Stimulation 9:29 - Listener Question: Mental Block Around Trying New Positions 13:15 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Can't Be Kinky 13:28 - Listener Question: How to Ask Your Partner to Be More Dominant 18:27 - Dispelling the Myth That Vulva Owners Can't Orgasm in Missionary 19:02 - Listener Question: Clitoral vs. Penetrative Orgasms & the G-Spot Explained 23:32 - Listener Question: How to Use a Vibrator During Missionary Without the Bulk 26:06 - A Note to People Pleasers: Your Pleasure Matters Too Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You know, when we just tell our partners, oh, throw me against the wall, throw me against the
0:05.9	bat, they want to please you, I would think. Sounds like you guys are in a good relationship
0:09.7	and it's getting, you know, a lot more serious. But understanding when and how to do something
0:15.3	like that is something that we got to learn. You're listening to Sex with Emily.
0:21.2	I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation
0:26.3	around sex.
0:27.5	In today's best of episode, we're talking about probably the most classic sex position,
0:32.2	and that is missionary.
0:33.6	Now, some of you might think it's basic or even boring, but I'm here to tell you that
0:37.2	missionary can be incredibly hot, intimate, passionate, and even kinky. Any other. Now, some of you might think it's basic or even boring, but I'm here to tell you that missionary
0:37.6	can be incredibly hot, intimate, passionate, and even kinky. In addition to dispelling missionary
0:42.9	myths, I'm also going to be answering your listener questions. Please rate and review
0:47.5	sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show. All right, everyone, enjoy this episode.
1:01.2	You know what gets in the way of great sex more than anything?
1:02.5	Overthinking.
1:07.3	It's that mental checklist, the distractions, the wait, what about the mess moment that pulls you right out of your body?
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1:28.5	They're super soft, absorb it, and right there when you need them.
1:31.5	No scrambling, no awkward pause, no break in the mood.
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