Why You're Addicted to Drama (And How It's Hurting You)

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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EVERYONE who signs up wins a FREE WhisperVibe™ OR a FREE Rose toy with any Whisper™ order! https://www.bboutique.co/vibe/emilymorse-podcast Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this Sex with Emily episode, Dr. Emily's first guest in the new studio is psychologist Dr. Scott Lyons, author of Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others. Dr. Lyons reveals how drama addiction isn't just obvious chaos—it's overscheduling, inability to tolerate stillness, and sabotaging intimacy when vulnerability feels threatening. He explains the biology: drama provides energy, numbs pain, and creates sensation that makes us feel alive. Listener questions address a 21-year-old spiraling after her boyfriend called an actress sexy, and a 30-year-old wanting kinkier sex but getting triggered. Dr. Lyons and Dr. Emily emphasize distinguishing sensation-seeking from authentic connection, coming back to the body when triggered, and recognizing how childhood patterns shape adult sexuality and relationships. Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 3:32 - The Hidden Signs of Drama Addiction You Might Be Missing 9:24 - How Trauma Lives in Your Body and Shapes Your Behavior 13:36 - Why Drama Shows Up in Your Relationships and Sex Life 15:37 - Why Do I Feel Terrible When My Partner Comments on Other People? 27:35 - The Currency of Love: How Childhood Chaos Affects Adult Relationships 33:48 - I Want Freaky Sex But My Body Keeps Freezing Up 42:52 - Understanding Dissociation and Finding Your Way Back Home 50:00 - How Drama Addiction Blocks True Sexual Pleasure and Intimacy 52:32 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Scott Lyons

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0:59.3	Why can it just be more easy?
1:01.6	When we don't realize it can't be more easy because we can't allow it to be more easy.
1:07.2	It doesn't actually feel safe for it to be easy and quiet and still.
1:15.7	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily, and I'm here to help you prioritize your
1:20.1	pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. Today, Dr. Scott Lyons joins us as to talk about
1:26.0	something that affects us all more than we
1:27.8	realize, being addicted to drama. And if you're like me, you might be thinking, I don't do drama,
1:34.2	I avoid it at all costs. But Dr. Lyons shows us how some of us may be more attracted to chaos
1:40.6	than we think, and how that pattern can deeply impact our sex lives and relationships.
1:45.8	We're also answering your questions, from navigating jealousy when your partner comments on other
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