Why You Need To Stop Apologizing Feat. Mel Robbins

Good Moms Bad Choices

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Kids & Family, Parenting, Personal Journals, Society & Culture

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🗓️ 19 November 2025

⏱️ 91 minutes

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Summary

This week, Good Moms resurface an important conversation with international best-selling author and wellness thought leader, Mel Robbins. The ladies talk about why saying "i'm sorry" is annoying, weakens your power, invalidates your needs, and denies the support that you deserve. Mel leaves us with some science based tips/tools to soothe the nervous system, and gain our power back.

You can expect to hear:

How replacing “I’m sorry” with “thank you” shifts responsibility and restores confidence
Anxiety in the body: how it starts, how it travels, and what actually helps calm it
The story behind Mel’s “High 5 Habit” and the science that makes it work
Why taking up space feels uncomfortable for so many women
The moment Mel gathered us about “disrespecting our business” and leveling up systems
Childhood patterns, internal voices, and how they follow us into adulthood
What it looks like to build something out of passion before realizing it’s a real business
How saying no can be a power move in negotiations and life
Navigating self-doubt, self-rejection, and why affirmations sometimes fall flat
The connection between trauma, survival mode, and daily overwhelm
Tools like high-fiving your heart to soothe the nervous system
Why celebrating yourself, even for the small things, matters more than you think
Parenting, identity, and watching our children grapple with the same insecurities we once had

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0:00.0	This is an I-Heart podcast.
0:02.5	Guaranteed Human.
0:19.2	Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.
0:21.6	I'm Erica.
0:22.9	And I'm Mila.
0:24.1	Happy Wednesday, Mommy.
0:25.4	Happy Hump Day, everyone.
0:27.0	We've already started the episode before the episode started.
0:29.4	I've already told our guest how I've had six wet dreams, or Jamila shared with our
0:33.7	guests, I've already had six wet dreams about Eminem.
0:36.9	And our guest has since confirmed
0:38.5	that Eminem looks like he might smell like he's been in holding for 48 hours, waiting for his public
0:44.2	defender to come to fend him. So in the movie, here we are. That's a thousand percent what he
0:51.2	I think would smell like. In the basement scene where he's doing the wrap
0:55.2	off yes um i don't i'm not i don't know i don't know why this keeps happening to me but i'm and
1:01.1	call me i'm here your secrets are not safe i would love for that really to happen so i'll tell you what
1:05.4	i'd love to see i'd love to see you do a peloton ad where you're riding next to him
1:09.7	oh i don't know why that sounds so freaky and erotic. I was just like, I just bitch in that. And it's like, I can't even imagine Eminem working out. I've said Eminem more than I've ever said his name in my entire lifetime today. Okay. I did have a crush on him too back in the day. Back in the day. I'm not trying to hate. There's little options. There's something there. Anyway, how's your week, guys? How are you feeling today? I'm feeling good. I'm feeling great. I'm a little. I smoked a little bit earlier, and so I'm feeling relaxed. And my friend gave me these, like, rose essence drops that she, like, made me. And so I just put some under my tongue. and they give me like, rose essence drops that she like made me and so I just put
1:45.3	them under my tongue and they give me like I don't know they make me feel like energized but
1:50.5	positive so are they like a rose essence THC kind of drug no no no do not THC it's just some she's an
1:58.0	herbalist and she I have I suffer from anxiety which is why I'm really happy you're here.
2:01.9	Okay.
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