When we go around and say, I keep getting ghosted, what is that doing to your self-esteem and your psyche?

If there's a pattern here, babe, what's the common denominator?

Are you trauma dumping? Are you oversharing? I hate to break it. But for some of these women, like, when I see the messages, I'm like, yeah, I could see why this guy, he probably didn't feel comfortable telling you because I don't know how you would have handled it. If you keep dating the same type of person and wondering why every relationship ends up in the same way. I promise you,

you are not alone.

And it's not actually about them. It could be all about you. Today I sit with Sabrina Zohar, a relationship

coach who went from a pack a day smoker who was stuck in toxic patterns to now helping thousands

of people break free from childhood wounds that drive

us to sabotage love. Today, Sabrina shares why your brain defaults to fear 12 times faster

than logic in relationships and simple body awareness techniques that can stop you from repeating

the same relationship patterns. Most people think that they need to be fully

healed to find love, but Sabrina is about to flip that idea completely upside down. All right,

Sabrina, thank you for coming on the show. I am so excited to talk to you about relationships,

adapt to relationship, attachments, anxiety, breakups, modern day, all of that. But first I got some rapid fire questions for you. Are you ready? Let's go. You feel good? Let's do it. Number one expression and relationships. Anxious attachment or avoid an attachment? For me personally? Anxious, 100%. What do you see the most? What do I see the most? I see a lot of people that are actually more anxious attached, but they think that they're avoidant. I see a lot of people that are avoiding the attached not realizing they have anxiety. The biggest sabotager to real love. Oh, your brain. Your brain. Because when I think about sabotage, we think about self-protection. When I think about self-protection, worst enemy and we're in our own way. So if we can understand the traumas, if we can understand the things that are coming up, and if we can understand the body sensations, then we're not going to end up sabotaging or impacting our relationship because we're going to take a pause and understand ourselves. Hell yeah. The biggest block to true love in modern dating right now.

Expectations. I think people have just the most unrealistic and wild expectations. It need to be

immediate. It needs to be mind red. It needs to be how I want it, when I want it. And there is a wild

just discomfort of uncomfortable situations and the unknown. And I think it's just getting

more and more detrimental into the dating world because people are expecting things that just don't exist. The biggest mistake people make in breakups. Not seeing things for what it is. I think for a lot of people, the good floats to the top, the bad things to the bottom, and they hold on to the story that's being created about their worth and why it ended, as opposed to understanding that they are not actually compatible with the person that they ended it with. And even if you care about somebody, you can also know that they're not right for you. The biggest driver of lack of boundaries in a relationship. Childhood traumas. Because more often than not, the reason that we don't want to set boundaries is because we're scared of being too much.

We're scared they're going to push them away.

And that comes from a core belief in a core wound. That's not actually have anything to do with the person that you're dating that you just met two days ago. Ooh, I love that. Okay, we're going to get into that. I want to ask you some questions to really get to know about your background and life. so let's get into these.

I was reading earlier this morning,

I didn't know this about you.

You were a musical theater kid.

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