Have you ever quit social media?

I have where I'm going to uninstall the apps, you know, make a big deal of it. I'm getting off the sauce. And then you're, you know, next day you're out on a hike with your friends or family, and it's a beautiful moment, you take a picture of it, and like, you know, maybe I'll just post this. You know, I'll reinstall the app just to share this. And then what happens? Well, then the next hour, the next day, you have this impulse to grab your phone and check the photo. Not in your photo reel, but on the site that you posted it. And what are you looking? Are you actually looking at the photo? No, you're looking at what's beneath the photo. You're looking at your engagement. Did I get likes? Did I get a response?

I get hearts? Did I get comments? Right? What do people say? And then we have this very

specific response in your body, in your emotions. That's like if you get a certain number of responses,

whatever your criteria is for enough, you're like, yeah, good. And then if you don't hit that metric, you know, low engagement,

no responses, ugh, I'm a loser. Nobody likes me, right? And that, we just take that as normal.

And we think that that's just how the world works now. And but actually, there's something that's being reinforced constantly in you and me

and all of us. Even if you've uninstalled a lot of these apps, even if you're not like a content

creator putting your stuff out there all the time, just by engaging in this world that we're in

that has installed a dangerous equation into the subconscious part of your mind

that creates a lot of unease, anxiety, performance anxiety, imposter syndrome, perfectionism,

social anxiety, niceness, people pleasing, and overall an insecurity and a difficulty

just being your most relaxed,

authentic, confident self around other people. And these are the challenges that I've

been helping people with for almost two decades. I'm Dr. Aziz, by the way. My background

was in clinical psychology and I've been working and teaching in this field of confidence

for the last 12, 15 years since after doing many years of clinical work. And I realized that, you know, across all these domains that I'm helping people with, there's actually a singular pattern underneath all of it. It took me a lot of years to see that. And what's underneath, whether it's a social anxiety or a person who's afraid to go say the thing that they really want to say or the person who feels like they're not good enough at work all the time

in the background. And I give you dozens of examples of amazing professional doctors, lawyers,

business owners, therapists, founders, executives, they're skilled, they're effective at their work.

And they live with a chronic sense of I'm not there yet, I'm not enough yet.

Or people who are intelligent and capable

and interesting and attractive be like, ugh, no one's going to want to be with me. I can't have friends or I can't have a partner. And they think, like, oh, there's just something wrong with me, right? Because they feel that insecurity. And then they're like, oh, this is really bad and shameful and embarrassed me.

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