Why You Don’t Feel Loved Unless He Says It
Almost Adulting with Violet Benson
Violet Benson
4.8 • 4.1K Ratings
🗓️ 13 November 2025
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
You don’t want flowers.
You want reassurance.
If he can post a story, he can send a sentence that says “I care about you.”
This episode is for every woman who feels crazy for needing words - because guess what? You’re not clingy. You’re not insecure. You’re under-affirmed.
We’re unpacking why hearing “I love you,” “I’m proud of you,” or “I’m here” hits like emotional oxygen… and why silence feels like abandonment.
If his silence makes you overthink,
if you keep replaying one compliment for three weeks,
if you’ve ever begged a man to just communicate —
you’re in the right place.
Hit play and stop settling for men who “feel it” but can’t say it.
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| 0:00.0 | Dr. Chapman, I've got a problem. I can't get my husband to paint our bedroom. I have been after him for nine months. I've tried everything I know and I cannot get him to paint. My first thought was, lady, you're the wrong place. I am not a paint contractor. But instead I said, tell me about it. She said, well, last Saturday was a good example. You remember how pretty it was? Do you know what my husband |
| 0:21.1 | did all day long? He was cleaning out his computer files. So what did you do? I went in there and I said, |
| 0:27.9 | Dan, I don't understand you. Today would have been the perfect day to paint the bedroom. And here you are |
| 0:34.0 | working on your computer. Okay, so did he paint the bedroom? |
| 0:37.9 | No, it's still not painted. |
| 0:39.5 | I don't know what to do. |
| 0:40.5 | Okay, then I have two suggestions. |
| 0:42.0 | It's file events and your favorite meme queen and the big sit you didn't ask for, but see. |
| 0:47.2 | Welcome to Almost Adulting. |
| 0:50.3 | Almost Adolting. |
| 0:55.1 | Are you ready? |
| 1:00.9 | Hi, Besties, and welcome to a brand new, almost adulting, the largest self-up podcast and movement. |
| 1:05.2 | Your number one destination, personal growth, mental health, blah, blah, blah, everything in between. |
| 1:14.4 | I am your Russian big sister and your host, Violeta, and I'm welcoming you to a brand new BBC. It's exactly what you think it is. It's Benson Book Club. Since I'm writing a book that will hopefully come out |
| 1:20.2 | the first quarter of next year, 26, I've decided to dedicate an episode once a month, every single |
| 1:26.9 | month, to some of my favorite books and some of my favorite chapters from those books where I get to kind of cover them, teach you something, learn from it as well. |
| 1:35.0 | So just relax, sip your overpriced macho of Starbucks coffee, and just enjoy with what I'm going to be providing you today. |
| 1:44.0 | Of course, if you are a new listener, |
| 1:45.8 | thank you so much for joining. And don't forget to hit the subscribe button so you never |
| 1:49.9 | miss an episode again. Make sure to also download today's episodes so you can always go back |
| 1:55.0 | to it and we listen. If you are coming back as a lifetime member of my podcast. Thank you for listening and welcome back. |
| 2:04.4 | Okay, real talk. I used to sleep in like these tight little bras before and then my titty would |
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