Hey everyone, welcome back to Jillian on Love. Today I have a really special guest, Sarah Shahi. She's an actress and she's an author of an incredible book that recently came out called Life is Lifey. And she was the star in the global Netflix hit Sex Life,

which really sparked very important conversations about women and desire.

Our conversation today is a very candid one and a really important one. Sarah went through unspeakable childhood trauma

and it shaped her life and it shaped her relationships with men and it shaped her relationship with

herself and she was able to overcome it. And so her story is

incredible. Her storytelling is amazing and will inspire all of you. So I'm very excited for you

to listen to this conversation. You're going to enjoy it. So without further ado, my conversation with the

amazing Sarah Shahy. Was your divorce from your ex-husband? Was that the big heartbreak of your life?

That was the, that's where I got my PhD in pain. Yeah. You know, I mean, of course everything, you know, when you file for a divorce or when you get a divorce,

there were events that led up to that big event, right?

So it's like there were heartbreaks along the way.

But that was the one that really changed me because, you know, no one gets married planning their divorce, right?

Totally.

And I have this very old, ancient way of loving where it's like when I do fall for someone it's like you know I want to be

buried on top of them in our graves and I want to come back in the afterlife and haunt people as

ghosts and you know it's a very sort of macab, like Wuthering Heights type of like tragic love.

It sounds like romanticism almost. It's very romantic, right? And, and like, you know, my love goes beyond

eternity. And so, so to have that happen for me, it really, like I said, that was the biggest

heartbreak.

I fell to pieces in so many ways that I didn't even expect.

You know, because, again, there are events that lead up to that that also break you.

Oh, totally.

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