The problem is women have been trained, especially in the love life area of our life,

to be easy going, low maintenance, as amenable as possible, and that sets a precedent for

the relationship of being more easy going than frankly most women are, and not understanding that

your needs are important, and men have been dating selfishly for years. If you look at the

word selfless, it's only the highest compliment when it comes to women. The fact that the highest

compliment for women is when we forget ourselves, which is literally the definition of selfless,

is actually something that I started to look at, being like, well why am I being complimented

on putting everyone else first, and forgetting myself, I'm important too.

Michelle Elman is a life coach, and she thinks we should all be a bit more selfish in our

love lives. I'm Lizelle, and this is the Lizelle well-being show, and as you probably know by now,

I am on a mission to find ways for us to thrive in later life by investing in our health and

our well-being today, so you are absolutely in the right place if you want to learn how to have

a better second half of life. So let's talk about our love life for a moment, how's yours?

Well mine's pretty empty at the moment, having got divorced during lockdown, that's a whole other

story, and kissed a few frogs, subsequently, still yet to find a prince, and I think one of my own

issues here, if I'm being honest, is that I see myself as a fixer, you know, I'm the one who sort

stuff out, I deal with problems, I cope with stresses, and maybe, maybe, that perhaps makes me too much

of a mother figure to be seen romantically, perhaps, what do you think? Maybe I come across as a bit too

strong, a bit too capable, when in fact, inside, I do actually feel far from it, so do I need to

open up a bit, be a bit more vulnerable, it's not really my style, but perhaps I should be sharing

this rarer side of me a bit more. I definitely, definitely need to be better at setting boundaries,

and I came downstairs the other day to find my ex, sitting in my kitchen, calmly eating a bowl

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