Why We Keep Chasing the Same Kind of Love

The Angry Therapist Podcast

John Kim

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.6 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 23 July 2025

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Today, John unpacks the complex layers of attraction, emotional wiring, and how our childhood shapes the way we love as adults. He dives into the connection between self-worth and the partners we choose, and why so many of us find ourselves settling—in both relationships and careers. Order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, ⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Jump into John’s new Single. On Purpose app ⁠⁠⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow John on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find out more about John⁠⁠⁠⁠ HERE⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Rated T for Teen.
0:02.0	Each year, thousands of adults lose their shred.
0:05.0	It's an epidemic simply known as shred loss, but it doesn't have to be this way.
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0:19.0	we can put an end to shred loss everywhere.
0:21.6	Get the new Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 3 and 4 and show the world that the shred's not dead.
0:26.6	Get Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 3 and 4 available now.
0:29.6	Hi, I'm John Kim, a licensed therapist who used to be a miserable fuck
0:34.6	before going on a hero's journey and turning expired relationships into revelations.
0:39.9	I use my story to help others.
0:41.7	I come with you instead of at you.
0:43.8	Unrehearsed on purpose because self-help doesn't have to be polished or complicated.
0:48.7	It just has to be honest.
0:52.2	All right, let me guess.
0:53.6	You've had that moment, maybe recently, maybe every damn time you start over,
0:58.9	you're staring at your phone, rereading the same kind of message from a different name,
1:03.3	thinking, how did I end up here again? Same dynamic, same distance, same push and pull bullshit.
1:10.0	And you're wondering, is it them or is it
1:12.5	me? All right, I'm not here to hand out blame. I'm here to hold up a mirror because the truth is
1:20.0	we don't just fall for the wrong people. We create what feels familiar. Today we're going to
1:26.5	break down this pattern, not just why you keep choosing the wrong
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