Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Why do unqualified people get all of your opportunities?

Ooh, this one can sting, can't it?

Let me tell you the reality here.

Life does not reward your potential. It rewards demonstrated readiness. For example, if two people wanted to be a speaker, one might even be more of a

talented speaker naturally, they might have an incredible message. They might have

real value to share with listeners with an audience. And another speaker might not be as good,

might still be in their learning phase, but they're actively speaking to event planners

letting people know that they are a speaker. Who is going to get the opportunity? The person who demonstrates

that they are ready. Now, life matches your level of self-belief plus action. And it's only us

who holds ourselves back. That's why it can be triggering and uncomfortable when you

see other people out there getting the opportunities, maybe landing the press, getting the friendships,

getting the cool possibilities in their lives that you secretly want. It doesn't mean that they're

better than you. It doesn't mean that they have any than you. It doesn't mean that they have any

special source. It just means that they're out there acting as if being a match in the physical

world for the opportunities that come their way. Let me ask you this. If that thing that you

really, really want arrived tomorrow, two questions for you.

Where would you secretly feel underqualified? I'm guessing it's related somehow to practice or doing the work.

And secondly, where would you feel exposed? Where would you want to hide? This is what I call the readiness gap,

and the way to close that gap is to get busy. There are no two ways around it. Even perhaps the

less qualified speaker is learning how to pitch herself, how to come up with a talk, how to tell a story in a way

that's compelling, how to raise the energy in a room. These are skills that are learned.

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