Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

When I interview Dr. Gabel Marte on the podcast, he says something that changed my life.

He said this, choose guilt over resentment.

Let me say that again, choose guilt over resentment,

because resentment is soul suicide. When was the last time someone maybe called you selfish for not doing what they wanted or not participating in what they

hoped that you would. It's so interesting that when someone calls us selfish, often their

behavior is selfish in labeling us that. It means comply, do it my way. This was my expectation.

Who's the selfish one here? Now, this isn't to criticize anybody,

but think about it. We are all here with the core purpose of enjoying our lives. We are different.

We like different things. We have different desires and expectations. So when there is a mismatch

and someone is called selfish, often that just

means that someone is doing what is aligned with their harsh desire. And there is nothing selfish about it.

Like Dr. Garvamehavamate says, allow yourself to feel guilty over feeling resentment over going along

with someone else's plan

that makes your soul just wither and die. Think about it. If someone calls me selfish,

I don't even consider that a criticism. I consider it a pure observation on the part of that person.

And in a way, maybe it's even a hidden compliment, meaning I don't

put myself last. My needs count too. I'm not going to just be available because that makes me

more likable or pleasing to be around. Being selfish is advised, my friends. It doesn't mean

eat all the bagels, leave nothing for anybody else.

It doesn't mean steal or do anything crazy. You live with a golden rule. Treat others how you would

like to be treated while respecting your own needs. If someone wants to give you an interpretation

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