Why it is that so many people have the experience of showing interest and then when they show

interest all of a sudden that person starts to lose interest. What is that?

Is that a thing? Is that a thing that is it an illusion or is that a real thing that

happens? You show someone in other people who get interest from someone and they are turned off

by it. Well, that's the question, isn't it? Is it just, are we really saying here that it's just

because this is a claim I think a lot of people make when they say, this always happens.

I show interest and they disappear.

That would be to suggest that showing interest itself is inherently unattractive.

Right.

And it would be hard to argue the truth of that statement.

It leads to those stalemates of no one dares wants to take one step forward

or put themselves on the line because they think, I'm going to lose the chess game if I show

any interest. Right. So I think we should almost break this down into what are the causes

of someone losing interest once we show our interest?

What categories could that phenomenon fall into?

I'd like to start, and I'm wondering what you think of this, Steve, with a simple idea that

some people are not looking for what you're looking for,

or are unhealthy emotionally. Yes. So those are two separate things. They're not necessarily the same

thing. But let's just start with those two things.

What are your thoughts on those two, Steve?

Yes, I agree. So the first one may be that once you show a level of interest that freaks

them out, they realize, oh, I don't want to commit to this person this much. I was attracted to them. I was

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