Why Trying to “Reason” With Your Child’s OCD Backfires
AT Parenting Survival | Raising Kids with OCD & Anxiety
Natasha Daniels: Child Therapist, Child Anxiety and OCD Expert, Parenting Coach and Parent
4.9 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 5 May 2026
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
It feels so natural to explain, reassure, and try to calm your child down when OCD is loud. After all, that’s how we solve problems in real life. But OCD doesn’t play by those rules.
When we try to reason with OCD, we often get pulled deeper into its loop, answering more questions, giving more explanations, and still watching our child struggle.
In this episode, I talk about why reasoning and reassurance can quietly fuel OCD, what’s actually happening in your child’s brain in those moments, and how to start shifting your role from “problem solver” to “anchor.”
If you are a parent who finds yourself repeating the same answers over and over, or watching your child feel better for a moment only to spiral again, this episode will help you understand why and what to do instead.
Links mentioned in episode:
Video on Reassurance as an OCD Compulsion
Video on Confessing as an OCD Compulsion
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to the AT Parenting Survival Podcast, where you get help and guidance through the chaos of parenting a child with anxiety or OCD. |
| 0:12.0 | This show is for educational purposes and is not intended to replace the guidance of a qualified professional. |
| 0:18.5 | Here's your host, child therapist, Natasha Daniels. Well, hello there, |
| 0:23.3 | and welcome to another episode of the AT Parenting Survival Podcast. Today, we're going to be |
| 0:29.0 | talking about something that a lot of us do, even when we know that this isn't really the way to deal |
| 0:35.1 | with OCD. But some parents don't know this. |
| 0:39.6 | So I thought it would be good to do an episode to explain why trying to reason with your child's |
| 0:45.0 | OCD backfires. This is something that a lot of us catch ourselves doing or a lot of times I'll see |
| 0:52.3 | comments on social media of things like, I don't understand, |
| 0:57.9 | like they won't touch this, but they'll touch that and that makes no sense to me. |
| 1:01.7 | Or they have all these rules at home, but they don't at school. |
| 1:05.9 | Or they have all these rules outside of the house, but not at home, like vice versa. |
| 1:11.1 | And it really goes back to this idea that OCD is not rational. |
| 1:19.0 | And when you think OCD's rational, you've already kind of missed the point. |
| 1:25.3 | So we're going to get into that and talk about some things that we |
| 1:28.3 | naturally do as parents. And then we're going to talk about why it doesn't work for OCD and what |
| 1:34.2 | actually to do that can help. But before we jump in, I do want to thank No CD for sponsoring this |
| 1:39.9 | episode. NoCD offers affordable, effective, convenient therapy, and they're available in the |
| 1:46.2 | U.S. and outside the U.S. You can schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if no-CD is the |
| 1:53.7 | right fit for you and your child. Just go to treat myocd.com. That's treat myoced.com. I'll leave a link |
| 2:00.4 | in the show notes as well. So let's jump into today's |
| 2:04.6 | episode. There is a PDF handout. So if you like handouts or if you're a note taker, you don't have |
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