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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

Why Toddlers Won't Share and What We Can Do

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.73.8K Ratings

🗓️ 2 February 2021

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Summary

A parent writes that for the past few weeks her son’s 3-year-old playmate will not share his toys. He cries, “That’s mine… he can’t play with it,” tries to take the toys back, and often has meltdowns. While she says her boy doesn’t seem particularly fazed by the behavior, the other boy’s mother is distressed and confused about expectations she should set about sharing toys at home. The writer says: “For my part, I’d begun to feel a bit protective for my son, while at the same time understanding that possessiveness is common and expected in children their age.” Since these two boys have been playing together exclusively during the pandemic, the parents want their interactions to be positive. Both parents are anxious to know what’s appropriate in terms of limits, expectations. and interventions and would like Janet’s advice. For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ. Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books. Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com) Our Sponsors:* Check out BabyQuip and use my code UNRUFFLED for a great deal: http://www.babyquip.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Janet Landsbury. Welcome to Unruffelt. Today I'm going to be talking a little about one of my favorite topics, actually, sharing and children engaging with each other with toys.

0:17.0

How can we understand this? How can we handle the difficulties children have?

0:22.0

What is our role in play between two children, whether they be peers or siblings? And I just want to frame this with one of my favorite, very simple but perceptive quotes from Magda Gerber, which is if we make a child share, that's not sharing.

0:42.0

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1:17.0

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1:27.0

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