Why they don't stop hurting you when they see you hurting
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.7 • 879 Ratings
🗓️ 30 June 2023
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Why do people who claim to care about us hurt us when they see that we're suffering? Shouldn't our suffering be enough for them to stop the behaviors? It's one of the most common questions I receive: If they really love me, why do they hurt me?
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about navigating the difficult relationship, |
| 0:05.0 | from simple disagreements to emotionally abusive behaviors. |
| 0:08.1 | You deserve respecting kindness. |
| 0:10.5 | All the information on this show is meant for educational purposes only. |
| 0:13.9 | Always seek a professional for your mental health and well-being, and always pick your battles wisely. |
| 0:19.1 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:28.9 | Thank you for joining me for another episode of love and abuse. |
| 0:35.5 | You'll notice that the intro has changed if you've been listening a while because it fits more in. |
| 0:38.3 | It fits more information in the beginning, so I don't have to repeat it. And it describes more in. It fits more information in the beginning so I'd have to repeat it. And it describes the show going forward because it is all about difficult relationships. |
| 0:45.3 | It's all about trying to navigate through the weeds of a difficult relationship and difficult people. So here we are talking about difficult relationships and difficult people. |
| 0:58.2 | So here we are talking about difficult relationships and difficult people. |
| 1:03.7 | And my goal is to make sure that you're either improving your relationship or navigating through one to get to the next phase of that relationship |
| 1:10.6 | or maybe even leaving a relationship that's not |
| 1:14.1 | working. I don't encourage leaving a relationship. I actually encourage working on it until you're |
| 1:22.0 | exhausted and then you get out. You might have to get out. You might have to leave. |
| 1:33.8 | Or something changes, some change in direction of the relationship or the person that's being difficult. |
| 1:34.4 | Or the both of you, maybe both of you are being difficult. |
| 1:37.9 | And you have to figure out what to do next. |
| 1:41.0 | That's what this show is all about. |
| 1:43.1 | But again, I emphasize trying to work on a relationship |
| 1:47.1 | because most people, I mean, you wouldn't listen to a show unless you wanted to work on the relationship |
| 1:52.7 | or improve it in some way or figure out what to do next. Most people tune into shows like this |
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