Today we're talking about sex life after having kids. We're going to be talking about what happens

to desire, connection, and sexuality once people become parents. Now I know what you might be

thinking. In TV, books, media, it tends to always be the same caricature. Kids arrive and

the fire goes out. Sex life is

non-existent. And that can happen sometimes. But new data from hymns and hers suggests the story

might need an amendment, or at least it's more complicated. And in some ways, it's a lot more

hopeful than we've assumed. Joining me today is Dr. Jessica Shepard. it's a lot more hopeful than we've assumed.

Joining me today is Dr. Jessica Shepard. She's a board-certified OBGYN, women's health

and sexual wellness expert, menopause specialist, and the chief medical officer at hers.

We're going to look at what their new survey reveals about the evolving landscape of

American intimacy,

but also through a good inside lens, how emotional connection, identity, vulnerability,

stress, self-knowledge, the ability to locate yourself and even mental load around parenting

shape our relationships to desire, to intimacy, to sex, and to ourselves.

I'm Dr. Becky, and this is good inside. I'm so glad you're here.

You just released a study, and I'm hearing that some results were surprising.

Even surprising to me, you know,

being a parent married, is that what we found through the survey was how many times couples were having sex a week. The stat itself, because we're going to go over a few numbers,

because I love digging behind the numbers, but let's start with what the numbers are. So you're saying married respondents in your survey, we're having almost twice as much sex per month as singles. They were having sex nine times a month. Yes. Versus five times a month. And for anyone listening, and I know we agree on this, there's no magic number. There's no like, if you're like, I'm under nine, I'm over nine, I'm under five. No, no, no. Intimacy is so many things. It's really about what works in your home. But I think the point of this conversation is to maybe, I don't know, untangle some myths. So this idea that passion kind of fades in long-term relationships, right?

I mean, I think this is something people have been saying.

Oh.

So, yeah, what, that's not what you guys found.

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