Why won't a woman let you lead in a relationship?

Why won't a woman let you make certain decisions, create direction, create pace within the context of the relationship?

Why does she push back?

Why does she test you?

Why does she reject?

Why does she sort of shit test you and challenge you and act confrontationally or ignore your decisions and your directions entirely.

Why do these things happen? I can kind of give you the standard answers. You've betrayed her

trust in the past. You've made terrible decisions in the past that make her question whether

or not you're making the right decision. You know, so your leadership has been pretty terrible at best.

You've acquiesced all decision making power, all decision making to her in the past.

So you've been fairly complacent in the relationship and you haven't largely made any decisions at all.

This is what classic nice guys do, right?

They get into a relationship and they sort of don't

make any decisions and they force their partner to make all the decisions, right? What do you want for dinner? I don't know. What do you want? Where do you want to go on vacation? I don't know. Where do you want to go? And they sort of hope that if they can get their partner to make all those decisions, that they'll somehow be adding value.

So those are the standard things, right?

Maybe she grew up in an environment where, get their partner to make all those decisions that they'll somehow be adding value.

So those are the standard things, right?

Maybe she grew up in an environment where her father was the sort of figurehead of the family and he was tyrannical and he was abusive and he was hyper-controlling.

Or maybe she was in a past relationship where she was really open and she was very

vulnerable with the man and she did allow him to sort of take the lead on certain things

and he betrayed her and he betrayed her trust and she hasn't really healed from that.

So there's a number of reasons that we could talk about and all those things are valid

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