Why Self Worth Starts in Your Body with Beatriz Victoria Albina

Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

Mary Jelkovsky

Body-image, Education, Relationships, Self Compassion, Society & Culture, Self Love For Women, Self Love, Self-improvement, Advice For Women, Women's Health, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Love Yourself, Self Worth, Self-love, Body Image

4.9 • 745 Ratings

🗓️ 6 November 2025

⏱️ 42 minutes

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Summary

People mistakenly believe that self worth lives in the mind. Like if you just *think* confident thoughts or repeat affirmations like “I’m a worthy woman,” it’ll magically click. But if you’ve ever tried to *think* your way into feeling like you are enough, you’ve probably noticed… it doesn’t last. That’s because true self worth doesn’t start in your head — it starts in your body. In this episode, Mary talks with Beatriz Victoria Albina, a Somatic Life Coach and author of *End Emotional Outsourcing*, to explore how reconnecting with your body can transform your relationship with yourself. Béa explains that so many women have been taught to “emotionally outsource” — to base their worth on other people’s validation, approval, or emotions. Traditionally, this has been labeled as codependency, but Béa offers a more compassionate lens that helps us understand *why* we do it and *how* to heal. Together, they unpack what emotional outsourcing really means, how to regulate your nervous system, and how to come back home to yourself. This conversation will help you move beyond people pleasing and perfectionism and into a sense of embodied safety — where self worth isn’t something you have to prove, but something you *feel.*

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0:00.0	A lot of us mistakenly believe that self-worth lives in the mind.
0:03.9	Like if you just think, I'm a worthy woman, I am enough, you'll instantly believe it.
0:09.3	But if you've ever tried to think your way into confident, self-esteem, or self-worth,
0:14.1	you know that that feeling doesn't always last.
0:17.4	That's why Bea Victoria Albina is here to talk to us about why and how self-worth starts in the Bade, the body.
0:26.0	I didn't have to say Bade, but can you really help yourself from saying Bade?
0:30.8	I can't.
0:31.5	Bea Victoria Albina might have a familiar name because she's been on Mary's Cup of Tea before.
0:35.8	A couple years back, she talked about people-pleasing and perfectionism. And now she's back, back again, Bay is back, to talk to us
0:44.0	about how to end emotional outsourcing, which is also the title of her new book. Emotional
0:49.3	outsourcing, you will learn about it in this podcast, so I'm not going to explain it to you, but
0:53.2	the TLDR version, the Too Long Didn't Read version, is acquiring your self-worth from other people, from external forces, your achievements, your work, your relationships.
1:04.2	That kind of emotional outsourcing inhibits our self-worth.
1:07.5	So today you'll hear about how emotional outsourcing differs from codependency or perhaps
1:12.2	anxious avoidant attachment styles. We unpack a lot of that. Baya also teaches us how to break free
1:17.6	from the self-abandonment cycle, stop people pleasing, and of course approach all of this work with
1:22.3	self-compassion. In case you're unfamiliar with Beatrice Victoria Albina, she is a UCSF trained nurse practitioner,
1:28.6	somatic experiencing practitioner, master certified somatic life coach, author of Endemotional
1:33.9	Outsourcing, a guide to overcoming codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits.
1:38.7	She has a passion for helping humans socialized as women to reconnect with their bodies,
1:43.1	regulate their nervous systems,
1:44.4	and rewire their minds so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people
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