Why Playing Games Is the Key to Protecting Yourself in Dating

The Unapologetic Man Podcast: How to Meet, Attract, and Date More Women

Mark Sing -- Seduction & Attraction Coach for Men

Dating, Seduction, Masculinity, Girlfriend, Women, Pua, Masculine, Education, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Nlp, Girls, Attraction, Self-improvement

4.8 • 1.3K Ratings

🗓️ 21 August 2025

⏱️ 22 minutes

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Summary

In this episode of The Unapologetic Man Podcast, host Mark Sing dives deep into one of the most controversial but critical truths in dating: the importance of playing games to protect your heart. Mark unpacks why men who wear their hearts on their sleeves too soon often get hurt, and how learning to hold back—strategically and intelligently—creates attraction, respect, and emotional safety.

Mark explains how “heart armor” isn’t about being cold or manipulative, but about maintaining control over your emotions and avoiding the trap of neediness. By understanding timing, restraint, and the power of options, men can protect themselves from heartbreak while still creating space for real connection and vulnerability at the right time.

Key Takeaways:

Why showing vulnerability too early often destroys attraction.
How playing games is more about gaming yourself than gaming her.
The 80/100 rule and how it keeps you safe in dating.
Why having options instantly makes you more attractive.
How to know when it’s finally safe to be vulnerable.

Key Timestamps:

[00:00:00] – Introduction to the Episode
[00:01:14] – Why Playing Games Protects Your Heart
[00:02:15] – The Cost of Opening Up Too Soon
[00:04:10] – Learning From Heartbreak and Experience
[00:06:02] – Options, Abundance, and the Power of Not Needing Her
[00:09:26] – The 80/100 Rule Explained
[00:12:30] – Gaming Yourself More Than Gaming Her
[00:17:18] – The Power of Holding Back
[00:19:51] – Final Thoughts and Advice

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About The Unapologetic Man Podcast

The Unapologetic Man Podcast is your resource for mastering dating, attraction, and relationships from a confident, masculine perspective. Hosted by Mark Sing, this podcast gives men the tools and mindset shifts needed to succeed in their dating lives and build lasting, high-value relationships.

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0:00.0	How many of you guys have had your heart ripped out of your chest,
0:04.0	thrown on the ground, stomped on, pissed on, and to this day you're still lamenting over the effects?
0:09.0	I don't know about you, man, but I've had my heart fucking broken so many times by chicks.
0:14.0	Why is it when we put our hearts on our sleeves, when we're vulnerable, when we're open, we get blown out.
0:21.5	This is a biological, unconscious reaction that women have to a guy who doesn't have options.
0:28.2	When you telegraph to the girl that she's your only option, she's going to lose attraction for you.
0:33.7	You have to pretend that you're not as into her as you really are into her.
0:38.4	You have to pretend that you want less than she does.
0:41.6	That right there is playing games unless there's one thing in place that you guys need
0:46.4	to stay tuned for because this is the one caveat and it's really important.
0:50.6	Welcome to the Unapologetic Man Podcast.
0:53.9	The only podcast that's all about self-improvement, confidence, success, women, and being a man without making any apologies for it.
1:08.3	What is up, y'all legends?
1:09.7	Thank you for tuning in to another episode of the Uniform Mike Papa, the Unapologetic Man
1:14.6	podcast.
1:15.8	Today we are going to talk about why you, brother, need to play games.
1:20.3	That's right.
1:20.9	I said it.
1:21.6	And right now, there's so many people getting butt hurt ready to send me that hate mail.
1:26.3	But before you do that, take a step back,
1:29.0	calm down, unpeel yourself, and relax, bro. Let me explain what I'm talking about. Because you know
1:36.2	it, I know it. Hell, even you know it, that we have to play games. How many of you guys have had
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