Hey, Selene! Sorry for the sound of my voice getting over the flu while I'm listening to episode 520,

which has been my all-time favorite episode that I've ever heard.

We recently moved my mother in with us and it was supposed to be where we took care of her half the year and my brother took half the year,

but it turned out that she's here 24-7 and it's a blessing and yet the hardest thing we've ever done.

And I wish I had this podcast episode before we took all the steps we took. So helpful.

Oh, Carrie, thank you so much for that message and thank you to so many of you who've reached out about

Friday's episode and that was episode number 520. I believe either way we'll have a link to it below in the show notes,

but it was the coolest thing I got calls from my friends from all over the country.

My husband, Brett, has heard from so many men whose lives were touched by his father, you know, being a football coach for so many years.

Just so many cool messages from those of you who are either about to deal with this or you've dealt with this or you're in the middle of it or

it's just it's life, right? And it's a powerful episode. So if you haven't listened to that, if you have parents who are aging

or caring for a family member, like when it's not just a short-term thing, but like a long-term thing,

I hope you'll listen to Friday's episode. Today though, we're talking about you.

If you've ever said, why do so many people in my life end up hurting me? Why do people always do this to me?

Why am I constantly being taken advantage of? Why does this happen to me? You really need to listen to today's episode because that's what we're going to explore.

If those are the kinds of questions that you often have and some of these others, I think it's really important for me to kind of go through these

because it will help you to identify if in fact this is what's going on for you. So I'm going to go through a list of questions.

And what I want you to do just in your head is answer whether this is sometimes true, always true, or never true.

All right, here we go. Number one, you tend to feel kind of sorry for yourself if things don't work out the way you want them to.

And instead of making a big deal about it or going directly to the person, instead, you'll kind of just feel sad or depressed and hope that other people might notice so that you don't have to have a confrontation.

When people tell you that it seems like there's something wrong, you feel like it's your right to feel that way.

It's your right to be sad or depressed or down or blue, even if you know that it has an impact around the people around you.

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