Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness

rather than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope

as you spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

Today we're going to be talking about what narcissists want when they first meet you.

When a narcissist first meets you, what they want from you is to make up for everything

that they feel they are owed in life.

So if they came from an abusive childhood home and let's say their mother was highly abusive

or their father was highly abusive and we all know that they're all different types of abuse,

but essentially there's a lot of trauma in a narcissist's background, a lot of abandonment,

a lot of shame, a lot of persecution perhaps.

You are going to be the person that they put on the pedestal that they

want to believe will never hurt them, that will never abandon them, that will never challenge

them. When you disagree with the narcissist, they go into full on defensive mode. And it's around

that time where they are unable to maintain a cohesive narrative about you in spite of the conflict.

And so when you challenge a narcissist or when you suggest that you be a part of a conversation or you

want a narcissist to consider how you feel about something, that's when you're going to start

to see the shift. Because when it comes to a narcissist, they want something, that's when you're going to start to see the shift.

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