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The Mental Healness Podcast

Why Narcissist can bring up the past but you can't

The Mental Healness Podcast

Lee Hammock

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

4.91.2K Ratings

🗓️ 4 April 2026

⏱️ 12 minutes

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Summary

"A narcissist has a 30-second statute of limitations on their own mistakes, but a lifetime contract on yours. Today, I’m explaining why we weaponize history to avoid accountability."

In this video, we discuss:

  • The Deflection Loop: Why bringing up your past is a narcissist's favorite "get out of jail free" card.

  • The "Old News" Shield: How we use time to make our own toxic behavior seem irrelevant.

  • Leverage vs. Resolution: Why the goal isn't to fix the problem, but to make sure you're the one on the defensive.

  • The Narrative Lock: How keeping your mistakes alive allows the narcissist to maintain the "Moral High Ground."

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Transcript

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0:00.0

Jamie Lang and Sophie Haboo have arrived on Disney Plus.

0:04.5

We're having a baby.

0:05.5

We're having a baby.

0:07.2

I've always wanted to be mom.

0:09.4

And we're bringing you on our journey through everything.

0:12.4

I have no idea what we're doing.

0:13.6

Thank you. I have more of an idea.

0:15.6

I think of it like a Tamagocchi.

0:17.8

At the end of all of this...

0:20.0

We're going to have a little baby. Raising Chelsea, a Hulu

0:23.7

original series streaming exclusively on Disney Plus. 18 plus subscription required T's and T supply.

0:30.7

So why are narcissists consistently breaking up the past, but you can't do it right.

0:42.6

That's what we're talking about today, y'all, why narcissistic people, toxic people, like to consistently and constantly bring up the past, but won't allow you to do the same thing.

0:48.0

Of course, if you knew here, my name is Lee Hammack.

0:50.5

I'm a diagnosed narcissist, and welcome to another episode of the Narcissus Code, y'all,

0:54.7

which will be transitioning to the Mental Hill podcast here pretty soon because the interviews

0:59.0

are on the way, y'all. The interviews are on the way. You're going to apply to be on the podcast.

1:05.6

The link is in the description of every video that I do. But yes, let's hop right into it, y'all.

1:10.2

The past is a tool that narcissists use to build a, like a house of protection, right?

1:18.1

A house of worship and whatnot.

1:21.0

Why do they keep bringing up the past so much?

1:24.2

Simply put, because it works.

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