So people ask me all the time. Lee, how can you talk about narcissists and be so calm?

Don't you hate narcissists being that you are one? Don't you hate yourself? Don't you hate your

father who's who was also probably narcissistic? Now, y'all, for years, the answer was yes.

I absolutely hated narcissistic people, including myself,

and I absolutely did have a hatred for my own father,

who is possibly a narcissistic, or is highly narcissistic,

traumatized at minimum.

And seriously, in order to become better, in order to heal, I had to get to the point

where I really don't hate my father.

Like, I'm diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder, and I myself had to look at

his own childhood trauma, his own childhood experience to help me find my own

peace in this type of situation, right? Like, seriously, and it just, this is what goes on right

here in my mind and how things work. I had to look at what he went through in order to heal,

right? Seriously, and that's how it works for me. This is the thing that has worked out for me, the best in my own personal situation, is to understand what he went through in order to make myself not necessarily feel better, but just be better overall in general. You know what I mean? So, let's hop right into like the story time or whatnot, right?

I used to hate my dad so much so that he was in control of my emotions.

You know me?

My therapy, when I would go to therapy and I would talk about him, I would get highly emotional.

There's probably more anger than anything, right?

And my therapist told me one day, she was like, you, she's, this how she put it. She's like, you, she's like, you hate when people are in control of you, right? Yes, I do. I hate. I can't stay on people who have power and control over me. And she was like, your dad has power over you. I'm like, what? How? He didn't, what? And she's like, look, look how emotional you're

getting right now. Look how angry you're getting. When you talk about him, your emotion spike. So you're

not in control. He is. That woke me up right there. I said, well, how do I get my control

back? She's like, you have to

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