I'm about to make a very counterintuitive argument that moving very slow while dating actually helps you find love faster.

And for all of those speed demons listening to this right now who just jump into relationships really quickly, who love very deeply, I promise you at the end of this video, I'm going to give you one key exception to this rule for your dating life where you can actually move really, really fast.

But like I said, moving slow will get you better results in your love life.

Even if you're really ready for a relationship, even if you're so sick of the dating process, the apps and all of that stuff, I want you to continue moving slow through

this process. It's very similar to, let's say you're really hungry and you want to make yourself

some chicken, some roast chicken. Bear with me on this story. I promise I'm going to land the plane.

It's kind of the difference between taking a chicken and slow roasting it for five hours, the meal

will be absolutely delicious. The chicken's going to look great versus cranking the temperature up to

900 degrees, throwing it in the oven, and trying to cook it in like 30 minutes. I promise you,

that chicken is going to be burnt to a crisp and it's not going to be very tasty.

Now, this concept is especially important if you're the type of person who's really anxious.

If you have an anxious attachment style and you tend to be a little bit more needy, a little bit more clingy in relationships,

you're going to have this natural intuition

that moving really fast creates more stability

and security in the relationship.

It doesn't.

This is also especially true when you're dating later in life.

Many of our clients are in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond.

And you might feel like you don't have time to waste.

I don't want to waste time on these guys. He's either in or he's out. But I will make this

argument that moving slowly through the dating process will actually set you up for success

in your love life faster. And finally, this is incredibly important if you're a busy professional because I get it.

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