Why Love Is More than a Feeling
The Fr. Mike Schmitz Catholic Podcast
Ascension
4.9 • 7.7K Ratings
🗓️ 18 February 2021
⏱️ 9 minutes
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Summary
What if we were to make all our decisions solely based on how we felt in the moment?
You may be familiar with the four types of love: eros (love of desire), storge (love of affection), philia (love of friendship), and agape (self-giving love). While each of these forms of love are good in their own way, they have to be accounted for correctly.
Eros is the most temporary of all the loves. Feelings and desires are fleeting. So when we try and make decisions that are based on these desires we have, they’re bound to fail before we even make them, just because eros is so fragile. Imagine choosing your spouse, or your vocation, or your profession based on how you felt about it 5 years ago. Would you be happy with the outcome?
Eros has its place in our life, but we need to make sure we’re acknowledging the more important elements, especially when making decisions. Eros is fleeting, but the agape love God has for you isn’t. Focus on the things that last, and attend to the feelings that don’t, and enjoy the life God has laid before you.
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| 0:00.0 | I've never felt anything like this with anyone before. |
| 0:03.2 | Or I've never felt like this before. |
| 0:04.9 | Or you make me feel things that I've never felt my entire life. |
| 0:08.2 | How often people justify their decisions because they feel eros. |
| 0:21.9 | Hi, my name is Father Mike Schmitz and this is Ascension Presents. |
| 0:24.3 | Not too long ago, I found myself visiting this family |
| 0:27.2 | and the family was watching a TV show. The TV show, it was the season finale of a show called |
| 0:32.5 | The Bachelorette. I think it's The Bachelorette, not The Bachelorette because there was one girl |
| 0:36.3 | with a number of male suitors vying for her hand. Clarification. |
| 0:39.9 | You can put in the comments below. You shouldn't ever watch something I guess. |
| 0:43.1 | Fine, I was at this family's house. We were watching it. |
| 0:45.6 | And just it struck me as an opportunity to expose myself to some of the things that happened |
| 0:50.0 | in our culture. Positive or negative, I watched one episode. There we go. |
| 0:53.3 | Back to this show. |
| 0:54.8 | One of the things that I found so fascinating about this was as these men were trying to make a |
| 0:59.5 | case for why this woman should choose them. Like why what they had with each other was more |
| 1:05.2 | powerful, was more real, was more, was better. Basically that reason why she should choose them. |
| 1:12.4 | It kept saying the same thing. Every single guy said the same thing. And even she would say that |
| 1:16.3 | something similar to each one of them, they would say something like this. |
| 1:19.7 | I've never felt anything like this with anyone before. |
| 1:23.0 | Or I've never felt like this before. Or you make me feel things that I've never felt my entire life. |
| 1:28.1 | And I just thought, oh my gosh, that is the entire argument. |
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