Why It's Important to Forgive but Not Necessarily to Forget

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 8 July 2022

⏱️ 33 minutes

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We've all heard the old adage, "you need to forgive and forget." But how hard is it to try to forget something that someone has done to you that causes you even to feel you need to forgive them? Is it even possible to forget certain things that people have done to us, and better yet, is that even healthy for you? Tony discusses the mental health benefits of forgiveness and the mental health challenges and potential dangers of attempting to forget something significant that has occurred in your life. Tony references the article "Why You Should Forgive But "Never" Forget" by Kurt Smith, PsyD https://psychcentral.com/health/reasons-to-forgive-but-not-forget (https://psychcentral.com/health/reasons-to-forgive-but-not-forget)Go to http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop (http://tonyoverbay.com/workshop) to sign up for Tony's "Magnetize Your Marriage" virtual workshop. The cost is only $19. You'll learn the top 3 things you can do NOW to create a Magnetic Marriage. You can learn more about Tony's pornography recovery program, The Path Back, by visiting http://pathbackrecovery.com (http://pathbackrecovery.com/) And visit http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com/) and sign up to receive updates on upcoming programs and podcasts.Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript, click here https://descript.com?lmref=bSWcEQ (https://descript.com/?lmref=bSWcEQ)

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0:00.0	Hey, oh, oh, oh, come on and take a seat on the virtual couch.
0:21.9	Hey everybody.
0:22.6	Welcome to episode 328 of the virtual couch.
0:25.1	I'm your host, Tony Overbay.
0:26.2	I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified mindful habit coach, writer, speaker, husband, father, four, and creator of the path back.
0:32.3	An online pornography recovery program that is helping people become the person that they've always wanted to be
0:38.0	turning away from unhealthy coping mechanism. So if you're interested in learning more, go to
0:42.2	pathback recovery.com. And one of the biggest components of the Pathback program is this weekly
0:48.0	group meeting that is just growing and growing. And it is such a positive healing support group
0:54.1	that it's what I've always dreamed
0:55.9	of in terms of support and getting people together and becoming the best versions of themselves.
1:01.3	So that is a part of this Pathback Recovery program.
1:03.8	So again, go to PathbackRecovery.com.
1:05.8	You can find out more.
1:07.2	So today on the podcast, I want to talk about the concept of forgiveness. I had someone recently in my
1:12.8	office and they were saying the old, I know that I should forgive and forget. So we've got all the
1:19.9	things that I enjoy so much as someone shitting on themselves, which makes them feel like they
1:24.8	are doing something wrong. And they're applying a cliched phrase that I
1:29.8	absolutely understand. It sounds like an admirable thing to do that the need to forget that goes
1:37.4	along with forgiveness. And I feel like that one, if I'm just being honest, is something that often
1:43.0	comes from the side of the person who has
1:45.9	offended. So I will get people in counseling. Let's just give a example of a couple that comes in,
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