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The Overwhelmed Brain

Why is finding and connecting with others so darn hard sometimes?

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.52K Ratings

🗓️ 12 October 2025

⏱️ 38 minutes

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Summary

If you feel like an outsider in a world that seems unrelatable, could it be because you're yearning for authenticity in your connections? I know I am. Making friendships and romantic relationships can sometimes seem like a lesson in futility.

Transcript

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0:00.0

These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

0:10.8

I want to address somebody's message to me that they said that it's very hard to live in a world and be authentic in that world when you're around others who aren't the way you are, who don't want to be authentic,

0:25.2

who aren't more honest or transparent, I get that.

0:32.5

I get that.

0:34.1

It's hard to show up in the world as a new and improved or just the version you are of

0:41.1

yourself in a world full of others who try to oppress you, who show up in toxic ways,

0:49.1

who don't have your best interest in mind or manipulative or selfish and I'm not saying everyone's like that.

0:57.3

I'm just saying it's hard to show up when there are a lot of people out there like that or in a way that doesn't match your vibe or your energy or the way you want to show up in life.

1:11.1

The person who wrote to me said that it's very hard to connect with others when others are

1:19.6

in some other reality, I'm paraphrasing, but they're in some other reality.

1:24.7

Like they are out to get something else out of life. And this person just wants an

1:30.6

authentic connection. She just wants to bond with people or make friends or not even that.

1:38.8

Just connect with others at a level that is more authentic, basically, more authentic.

1:47.0

And it can be difficult to meet others on that same plane of reality.

1:54.0

And I don't have many friends myself, all my friends, I basically make through my wife because she's more

2:01.9

extroverted and she brings them into our life and suddenly I like them and I connect with them.

2:08.4

But I'm not the type of person that goes out. Well, I'm trying to change this, believe me. I'm trying

2:13.1

to change. I'm not the type of person who goes out and says, hey, how are you? Let's be friends.

2:19.2

Give me your phone number, you know, after an hour or two of conversation. I'm not normally like

2:24.4

that because then when I get home, I had a great time, but I don't want people calling me.

2:30.8

So I have this, I don't know, I have this mindset where I go out and I meet people. I'm having a

2:36.5

great time and I would love to spend time with them again, but I don't want to go home and talk

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