Why is finding and connecting with others so darn hard sometimes?
The Overwhelmed Brain
Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert
4.5 • 2K Ratings
🗓️ 12 October 2025
⏱️ 38 minutes
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| 0:00.0 | These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being. |
| 0:10.8 | I want to address somebody's message to me that they said that it's very hard to live in a world and be authentic in that world when you're around others who aren't the way you are, who don't want to be authentic, |
| 0:25.2 | who aren't more honest or transparent, I get that. |
| 0:32.5 | I get that. |
| 0:34.1 | It's hard to show up in the world as a new and improved or just the version you are of |
| 0:41.1 | yourself in a world full of others who try to oppress you, who show up in toxic ways, |
| 0:49.1 | who don't have your best interest in mind or manipulative or selfish and I'm not saying everyone's like that. |
| 0:57.3 | I'm just saying it's hard to show up when there are a lot of people out there like that or in a way that doesn't match your vibe or your energy or the way you want to show up in life. |
| 1:11.1 | The person who wrote to me said that it's very hard to connect with others when others are |
| 1:19.6 | in some other reality, I'm paraphrasing, but they're in some other reality. |
| 1:24.7 | Like they are out to get something else out of life. And this person just wants an |
| 1:30.6 | authentic connection. She just wants to bond with people or make friends or not even that. |
| 1:38.8 | Just connect with others at a level that is more authentic, basically, more authentic. |
| 1:47.0 | And it can be difficult to meet others on that same plane of reality. |
| 1:54.0 | And I don't have many friends myself, all my friends, I basically make through my wife because she's more |
| 2:01.9 | extroverted and she brings them into our life and suddenly I like them and I connect with them. |
| 2:08.4 | But I'm not the type of person that goes out. Well, I'm trying to change this, believe me. I'm trying |
| 2:13.1 | to change. I'm not the type of person who goes out and says, hey, how are you? Let's be friends. |
| 2:19.2 | Give me your phone number, you know, after an hour or two of conversation. I'm not normally like |
| 2:24.4 | that because then when I get home, I had a great time, but I don't want people calling me. |
| 2:30.8 | So I have this, I don't know, I have this mindset where I go out and I meet people. I'm having a |
| 2:36.5 | great time and I would love to spend time with them again, but I don't want to go home and talk |
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