These are my personal opinions. Always seek a professional when you're making choices about your mental health and well-being.

Some people just want you to feel bad. Some people want you to feel guilty. They want you to feel responsible.

This could definitely be an episode for love and abuse, my other podcast, because one of the signs, of the many signs of emotionally abusive behavior is making you feel responsible and guilty for anything, any problem that comes in the relationship that they find as a problem.

This could be a romantic relationship, this could be a family relationship, a co-working

situation or a boss or whatever, subordinate.

Anyone that turns the table puts the mirror up to you and says, no, you're doing this, you're

the problem.

That is somebody doing emotionally abusive behavior.

Typically, there are actual times this happens when you really are the problem or they

really are the problem and you do the same thing to them.

But when you're not actually

intentionally causing trouble, when you're not trying to make them feel bad or take the

spotlight off of you, when you're not doing those things, you are probably not trying to

hurt them or make them feel bad in any way,

and you're more likely to take responsibility for what's going on in the relationship

and for your role in what is happening in the relationship.

But when you're intentionally deflecting or trying to point their attention at something else, especially

themselves, you are taking what they're saying or doing and turning around back on them

in order to make them feel bad, in order to make them feel like they have to address what's

going on inside of them instead of you having to address what's going on inside of them instead of

you having to address what's going on inside of you, that's when somebody might be manipulating

you or being coercive with you. And if that's the case, what's going on with them? Why are they

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