Why I've Never Dated

Orgasmic Enlightenment with Kim Anami

Kim Anami

Relationships, Health & Fitness, Love, Sex, Sexuality, Society & Culture, Tantra

4.4 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 7 October 2025

⏱️ 20 minutes

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Summary

I’ve never dated anyone. Never been on a dating site.

My experiences in the early stages of romance and relationships have always been intense, wild and unmistakable.

I’ve seen something reposted a few times lately, an idea that people seem to be in awe of, that’s been the story of my life:

“What’s crazy is that real lovers don’t even do talking stages. All it takes is one good date and suddenly y’all are together every day after that.”

Yeah. This is how it’s always been for me. I EXPECT big love, big feeling, a whole-hearted, whole-vagina, whole-soul response to someone.

Nothing less. Why would I waste my time on anything BUT that?

In this episode:

Since I don’t “date” here’s what I do instead
The morass of modern dating and my advice on how to navigate it
Humans vs. superhumans
Jen Okazaki weighs in (iykyk)
When you know you know
People who marry for every other reason other than deep passion and what they look like 5, 10, 15 years down the road—I would know because I see them all the time
Recognizing soul mates—or at least the people who hold vital learning for you here and now
Shakespearean-Romantic-poet-epic-saga-love and nothing less
Courage and boldness in love
Death by a thousand cuts of cowardice

Transcript

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0:00.0	Orgasmic Enlightenment, where the sexual and spiritual come together.
0:06.7	I'm Kimanami and I'm a holistic sex and relationship coat and a vaginal weightlifter.
0:12.9	In this show, we explore all things intimate.
0:15.8	I believe that our sexual energy is life force, creative energy and we can use it to shape our worlds
0:22.9	strengthen our relationships and self-actualize. I blend the most avant-garde information from
0:29.8	neuroscience, ancient sexual practices like tantra and Taoism to renegade wellness modalities to
0:36.4	show you how to create gourmet sex in your lives.
0:41.1	Come one, come all.
0:44.1	Why I've never dated.
0:47.5	I have never dated anyone.
0:50.7	Okay, well, technically I've been on three dates in my entire life with three different guys.
0:58.4	Over the years and decades, when I would hear people talk about dating, I never really
1:03.4	understood it. It seemed like for them, dating was this multi-month audition period of
1:10.2	spending time with someone where you may or may not be
1:12.9	having sex with them and you may or may not be in an exclusive relationship with them.
1:18.9	Huh. Confusing. My experiences in the early stages of romance and relationships have always been
1:27.0	intense, wild, and unmistakable. Meaning,
1:31.4	I knew from the very beginning pretty much from the moment I looked into their eyes who they
1:37.5	were and what they would be in my life. And they knew too. I've seen something reposted a few times lately, an idea that people seem to be
1:47.7	in awe of that's been the story of my life. And it is. What's crazy is that real lovers don't even do
1:55.6	talking stages. All it takes is one good date and suddenly y'all are together every day after that.
2:02.6	Yeah, that's how it's always been for me. I expect big love, big feeling, a wholehearted, whole vagina, whole soul response to someone. Nothing less. Why would I waste my time on anything but that? I've become
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