Welcome to Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore.

Okay, my friends, let's talk for a moment about why I'm not in love with therapy.

Now, I must preface this by saying, I've enjoyed therapy a lot in the past. It's brought me a lot

of support and a lot of clarity. I've also written about this in my book, Let It Be Easy. Couples therapy

has been one of the best things my husband and I have ever done, and therapy in my history has helped me just

understand myself better. It's helped me lean into the parts of myself that were kind of

confusing to me how anxious I would sometimes feel or on how high alert I would sometimes feel.

That said, I never worked with a therapist for really longer than, I think, three-ish or so months

at a time in different periods when I needed them, I'd use them, and then I would pop in and then pop

out. And to me, that was perfect. So why am I breaking this down today? So look, whatever you

need for your own mental health, take it. I applaud any moves towards whatever it takes to take care of yourself

and your well-being. I'd also like to share that sometimes I don't like how therapy keeps us

locked in this loop of our past. You know, there's a joke that I heard at NYU when I was studying coaching there,

life coaching, about the difference between coaching and therapy. And it says, you know, a therapist

keeps you on the couch and a coach gets you off the couch, gets you moving. And that's very much

my spirit, living in the present, taking advantage of now, seeking opportunities,

creating an action plan, moving forward. I've had friends and relatives over the years who've

been kept in therapy for months and months and months, even years at a time, talking about the

past, reliving it, rehashing it. And if that works for you,

don't listen to me today. Tune out, move on, listen to past episodes. But I wonder, you know,

even when I was, say, weeks into working with a therapist, I'd be having, for example, a really

good day. And I was feeling good and high and I was like, oh gosh, no, 4 p.m.

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