So you woke up this morning expecting some roses, some flowers, some gifts, something, right?

A happy Valentine's Day, something from your narcissistic partner.

But deep down, you know it's not coming because they haven't ever done anything for you on Valentine's Day.

They might have did something on the very first Valentine's Day, but ever since that point, they've done nothing since, right? And as a diagnosed narcissist, I'm going to tell you why. I'm going to take you inside the mind of a narcissist and why we do these things that we do on Valentine's Day. Why we treat you the way do on holidays like Valentine's Day. It's important that you learn, sit right here and listen to this, y'all, because I came out of, I went out of my way to do a Valentine's Day. It's important that you sit right here and listen to this y'all because I came out of, I went out of my way

to do a Valentine's Day special for y'all this year. I do one every year, but I appreciate y'all being here. Of course, if you knew here, I'm Lee Hammack and my dog knows Narcissists. And welcome to another episode of the Narcissist's Code. We're going to hop right into it, y'all.

The narcissistic people, like including myself.

I hate holidays, right?

I know there are some people out there who hate holidays and be like, well, Lee, I'm not a narcissist.

Yeah, hating holidays does not automatically make you a narcissist, right?

It does not make you a narcissist because some narcissists love holidays.

They love to, the holidays are the period of time in the year where they make up for all the other horrible behaviors that they've been exhibiting, right? They do it. They try to make up for all the other horrible stuff they put you to the earth. So they use the holidays as like a get back, like a gift back. Here's a gift back to you because I treated you horribly for the last X amount of

years right that's what goes on right there um but because they hate these days they're typically

not going to do something for you on a day that they hate right so many people take it personally that the narcissist or a toxic person or whatever didn't do

anything for them on Valentine's Day you're taking it personal because you feel like well this is a

personal attack on me there it's about me it's really a hundred percent about me and yeah it can look

that way it can feel that way right but this this is how narcissistic person will be with anybody,

with most people, except maybe the first couple, the first Valentine's Day to get you hooked.

But after that, no. And of course, it can cross that line into being personal. I know some of y'all

going to say, well, Lee, it does feel personal because they do things for their mom on Valentine's Day. They do things for their sister on Valentine's Day. They give my daughter something on Valentine's Day. They give my son, whatever the case may be right? They do something on Valentine's Day. They just single me out. That's a personal attack right there. Those are personal. But if it's everybody, if they just shut down completely, that's not really about you, right completely that's not really about you right that's not really about you that's about the narcissist in general just being a

horrible human being and this is what they do this is how to handle situations they don't know how to

manifest any good behaviors on this day right because it's let's, let's be real. It's high pressure. Valentine's Day is very,

very high pressure. It absolutely is. You can't look at me and just be like, well, Valentine's Day

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