My perception of goals have changed over the years.

Like, I've been able to accomplish a lot of things. And my belief now in hindsight, looking back at it, is not because I set big, crazy, rigid goals, but because I was always willing to be flexible and pivot and adapt and, like, abandon a goal. Oh, yeah. So how is that supposed to work? Yeah, I mean, I think you can hold on to something too long. I mean, you see businesses go out of business all the time because they were unwilling to make a change. Rigid goals are fragile goals. And so a sign that you have a flexible goal is if you are able to do something the day after perfect. So every goal has the day after perfect where you went to the gym three weeks in a row and then you miss one day. And there's a lot of people who they missed the one day, and it turns it into three months. So giving yourself the grace to pick it back up. All resiliency is, the definition of resilience is being willing to give yourself the ability to start again, like to start again, to start again. You wouldn't need resilience if you were perfect. You only need resilience when it hasn't worked. So a good sign of a flexible

goal is I didn't meet it perfectly. I'm still doing it. A good sign of a flexible goal is when you

give yourself a margin of error. So for instance, one of my goals this year is to spend a thousand

hours outside. There's this woman who did this program.

I've seen that.

It's killing, dude.

And so I decided to try it.

And some days, my wife tried it, actually. That's why I saw it. Nice. Well, I tried it. And I was like, you know what? I'm going to make some mistakes this year. So I'm giving myself a 5% rate of error, which is 50 hours.

So if I forget to turn the timer on or off or whatever, it doesn't matter.

I gave myself a 5% range of error, which is 50 hours. So if I forget to turn the timer on or off or whatever,

it doesn't matter. I gave myself a 5% range of error. So even that gives you flexibility, even that.

And then the other thing is being willing to retire goals, to assess and go, okay, quarterly,

monthly, whatever, this thing I thought I wanted is an old dream. And I thought I wanted it, and I don't really want it. It was a story I thought, or it came from childhood. It's time for me to retire that. Most people don't retire goals fast enough. They limp them along and don't admit when they're over. My, like, I see people all the time ask me, I got five books in me. I'm trying to write a book and and I can tell they don't want to write a book. But they think they have to write a book. And so sometimes I just give them the permission to go, I think you really love your podcast. And I think you have this pressure that people in your stage have to have a book. I don't know that that's, you don't seem, there's no joy. Every time you tell me, I got to write a book, it doesn't seem like there's any joy in that. Maybe that's an old goal you need to let go. I actually have a third book that has already written and has been paid for and everything, and I haven't released it. Yeah, it's locked and loaded. Well, I just am like, yeah, you know what?

I don't know that I necessarily believe this in its current version anymore.

It might not be the season or it might not be the animation. And I don't want to promote it. I don't want to do any of these things. You know the work. It's not a, it's not like a weekend where you just send a book out. the level you're going to do it at will be heavy lifting for you and the whole team.

Yeah.

And so you as a leader are going, I'm not going to do it as an ego thing.

The older you. you're going to do it at will be heavy lifting for you and the whole team. Yeah. And so you as a leader are going,

I'm not going to do it as an ego thing. The older you get, the more you make decisions on ROI, not EGO. Like, I'm always going, what's the RI? I'm like, what is EGO? Like, ROI, not ego. We're like a book tour, an example.

Yeah.

I don't do book tours anymore because they're great for my ego.

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