Why High-Achieving Couples Can Feel Lonely at Home w/ Adam Lane Smith

Dear Young Married Couple

Adam & Karissa King

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

5 • 817 Ratings

🗓️ 22 July 2025

⏱️ 55 minutes

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😵‍💫 Ever wonder why your marriage just feels… off? Maybe the spark is fading, or one of you is crushing it at work but totally disconnecting at home. Let’s hear Adam Lane Smith drop the real reason behind emotional burnout, sexual disconnection, and the silent divide that so many high-achieving couples face. Spoiler: we’re not just gonna tell you to communicate better. This is about brain chemistry. You’ll walk away understanding the two bonding hormones that build true intimacy, why vasopressin might be your missing link, and how to actually rebuild trust and connection. Are you leading together or just living parallel lives? Resources: 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Join us at the FINAL EROS ever—happening Sept 12–13 in Nashville! https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/eros 15% off Adam Smith’s course, How to Build a Secure Marriage with code DYMC15 https://adamlanesmith.com/product/how-to-build-a-secure-marriage/? utm_source=dymc&utm_medium=affiliate Exhausted Wives, Bewildered Husbands by Adam Lane Smith https://a.co/d/hz4SFzV Get 50% Off Monarch Money, the all-in-one financial tool at www.monarchmoney.com/DYMC Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	If somebody has never experienced a refreshing, relaxing, healing, fulfilling relationship,
0:07.2	they've never experienced it from the moment of their birth.
0:09.8	If they're anxiously attached, it's because they believe they're not worthy of it,
0:13.0	so they have to earn their way into the tiniest version of it, right?
0:16.3	It's the concept of if anyone will barely accept me for overperforming, then maybe I'll be allowed to live
0:22.5	on the front doorstep. Dear young married couple, if your marriage looks great on paper, but
0:27.9	underneath the surface feels disconnected or stressed or even just a little, this episode might
0:35.0	explain why. Today, we're talking with Adam Lane Smith.
0:38.7	He has a master's in psychology, and he's helped thousands of high-performing individuals
0:43.5	and couples build real lasting intimacy at home while crushing it at work.
0:48.1	And what I loved about this conversation today is that Adam doesn't just talk about feelings.
0:53.9	He explains the actual biochemistry
0:56.2	behind why couples burn out emotionally and sexually, and even when everything else looks good
1:01.6	from the outside. Yeah, what blew my mind actually was, did you know that there is a hormone
1:07.0	that's more important than oxytocin for building lifelong connection and healing trust.
1:12.5	It's not dopamine. And it might explain why so many men can crush it at work, but they collapse
1:19.5	at home. If you've ever tried to spice things up in the bedroom and it didn't work, or you've
1:24.9	wondered why connection feels hard even when you're doing everything right.
1:29.1	Don't skip this episode. Adam, thanks so much for joining us today. You've worked with thousands of
1:34.5	couples, many of them leaders in their respective spaces. What's a common pattern that you see
1:41.7	in couples who are, they seem to have it all together on the outside.
1:47.6	I do, I do get a lot of these couples in where the man is thriving at work. He's a CEO or he's got
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