Distinct by Design: Recovering the Roles of Husband and Wife

Dear Young Married Couple

Adam & Karissa King

Christianity, Religion & Spirituality, Relationships, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Sexuality

5 • 817 Ratings

🗓️ 15 July 2025

⏱️ 37 minutes

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🤔 What exactly is your role in marriage, and how do you know if you're doing it well? This episode gets real about the quiet pressure so many women feel to “figure it out” while men often inherit a direct mission from the start. Let’s unpack why the lack of a job description for wives isn’t a curse, but a calling. Are you just getting by, or are you multiplying love, preserving goodness, and discerning strength? What does success in your role even look like? This isn’t your average gender roles convo. This one’s for the wives asking, “Am I doing a good job?” and the husbands who want to lead with more than just provision. Resources: 🎟️ Don’t miss your chance to join us at the FINAL EROS ever—happening Sept 12–13 in Nashville! https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com/eros Stay in Conversation with Us IG: @dearyoungmarriedcouple Website: https://www.dearyoungmarriedcouple.com Email: [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Dear young married couple, I have a story for you. A couple days ago, I was working with a guy,
0:08.9	and I just had this intuition to ask, what are your duties as a man? And he thought for a second
0:19.5	and provided them, one, two, three.
0:22.6	Just gave them right back to me.
0:25.6	That kind of was interesting to me and I asked, followed that by asking several other clients, men, what is your role?
0:33.6	What are your duties as a man?
0:36.6	And they instinctively knew and I thought this was a really
0:39.8	interesting thing that guys were really clear on it. I turned around and asked the same question
0:46.0	to a wife and I didn't get such a clear response. And we also did this same experiment at our monthly live date night last week.
0:57.7	And same exact thing. The first three answers given for the men, and it was three different
1:02.3	men that responded quickly, were the same three answers given by all the men in your experiment.
1:08.5	And then when we asked the ladies, there was some space, they were thinking about it.
1:13.9	And then there were some answers.
1:16.2	And they were good answers,
1:17.8	but there wasn't as much clarity around the role of the woman
1:23.4	versus the role of the man.
1:25.3	So today we want to kind of unpack roles, responsibilities in the
1:31.2	home, what it looks like for us to win and why it's important for us to have those clear,
1:38.7	distinct roles and responsibilities in our marriage. Yeah. Because if you don't have a mission, if you don't have
1:47.1	clarity around this, how do you know if you're doing it well? And that's where so many couples are
1:52.4	getting stuck. They're doing everything. They're working. They're parenting. They're serving.
1:56.9	They're hustling. But they still feel like they're falling short of their potential. And it's not
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