Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong with Eric Barker • 236
Mind Love™ • Consciousness, Spirituality, and Science for Awakening
Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach
4.9 • 906 Ratings
🗓️ 28 June 2022
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
We will learn:
- Surprising facts about lonely people.
- How we can get better at reading people.
- How to catch a liar.
Every über successful person I know is still most proud of their relationships. Relationships increase our life spans and even our health. Connection gives us meaning and purpose.
So how do we master first impressions? How can we get a feel for someone faster? How can we figure out if someone is being truthful? How can we diffuse arguments faster or resolve conflicts better?
That’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Eric Barker.
Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller “Barking Up the Wrong Tree”, which has sold over half a million copies. It was even the subject of a question on “Jeopardy!” His newest book “Plays Well with Others” was just released.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Mind Love episode |
| 0:02.0 | episode is all about why everything you know about relationships is mostly wrong. |
| 0:08.0 | The longer the time we spend with someone, the more confident we get about our ability to read them. |
| 0:13.0 | But the truth is, our confidence scales a lot quicker |
| 0:16.6 | than our ability to read people's thoughts and feelings. |
| 0:19.3 | This is worked by Nicholas Appley at University of Chicago, |
| 0:22.0 | and he found that with strangers we can only |
| 0:23.7 | correctly read their thoughts and feelings 20% of the time with friends it reaches |
| 0:28.0 | 30% with spouses it tops off at 35. So whatever you think your spouse is thinking, two-thirds of the time you're wrong. |
| 0:35.1 | And this is, this actually, to your point, leads to an enormous amount of problems. |
| 0:41.2 | Turn up your of problems. It's time to give your mind a little love with your host, Melissa Monte. |
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