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Hey guys, it's Alana and you're listening to seeing other people unfiltered.

It's Thursday, so that means real-life daters are coming on to share their real, sometimes shocking, and always unfiltered experiences.

Think you're alone out there?

Think you're the only one whose ex hooked up with your mom or

whose last date ended up being a catfish. Think again. I have something to say before we get started.

Okay. And I have never laughed harder than when I read that you were crying on December 31st,

2017 in the Equinox Park Ave South locker room. Did you also cry on that bench? That, and specifically that exact Equinox, that steam room. Really? That was my crying spot, winter of 2017. Okay. I would go to the same. Like, we've definitely been there. What is it? Like the endorphins. I don't know. And then you're like, you know what? I don't and then you're like you know what I don't

care I'm just going to let it out it it was my crying spot what were you crying about oh so much oh so much

those are my dark days those are my dark days but I cracked up when I read that I'm like oh my God

if only like we could have said like hi let's cry together yes I did a lot of my like dirty work in the gym and then I would like text people because I'm like, it's okay. I have the confidence. I cried. I worked out. Now I can move on with my life or my daddy until the next time. Steph Povone. I love that. Stephanie Povone. Hello. Welcome to seeing other people. Thank you for having me. This is so awesome. Thank you for being here and thank you for being you. We're going to get into the journey you went on, which is one hell of a journey. But the fact that you were able to reflect on everything that you've been through and be really candid about it. You came out with this book, Clarity Through Chaos. First of all,

I'm obsessed with the name. I'm obsessed with the cover. Thank you. This is like magical. And I'm sure it was

really scary, but also empowering for you to write this. This is, and I imagine it already has,

but this is going to help so many people. Thank you. That's why I wrote it. And I had to get over the fear, like you said. Yeah. Because I was like, if you're going to write the book, write the damn book. And the fear did hold me back for a little while. And then I got to a place where I was like, if you want to help other women and just other people in general, you got to get going here. Yeah. and I was like, it's just time. It's time. It's time. And I think it's cool that like sometimes we go through really hard things in life, but the outcome is so meaningful that like we wouldn't take it back. Yeah. No, I wouldn't. Everything in this book, I always say like led me to where I am today. And so I got married in August, which you know. But I was like, that, like, my new name is going to be Stephanie Amarotti. And I was like, but this book is Stephanie Pavone. So it was, I'm very symbolic, you know, I'm a marketer. So it was all about the branding for me. I love it. And I was like, this was the time. But if you

don't publish this now, are you ever going to do it? Right. And I was like, I'm just, it's time.

So yeah. So backing up, let's get into Stephanie Pavone. Let's do it. You got married at 22.

I did. Wild. Crazy. Yeah. And you're not like deep south where getting married at 22 is

super normal. You know, I never dreamed about marriage. My parents are divorced and lovely people. Like,

they're still best friends. But I was always very career oriented. So when I met my ex-husband, I just

was like, oh, we're in love. And I didn't really think about it, which is kind of crazy,

but I was being a bit spontaneous. And I was like, okay, I love you. We'll get married. You want to

get married? And I got married. And I wrote this, but like like I didn't even think about it which is wild

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