Why Don't I Feel Close to God? [198]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Narcissism, Christianity, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Spiritual, Christian, Self-improvement, Education, Divorce, Marriage

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 22 November 2022

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

Learning about emotional and spiritual abuse is dangerous. You start to see patterns in your marriage, your family, your friendships, your church…and your faith. You start to understand why God often doesn’t feel safe. Why you feel like a constant disappointment. A regular failure. A busted, broken, rejection-worthy woman. You were taught that God is love… And that God wants (and demands) perfection. That he loves you IN SPITE of you. That he has to look at Jesus to accept you. That negative emotions are a sign you’re in sin. And a high self-esteem (not hating yourself) is a sign you’re in other sin. That you deserve punishment even when you’re giving 100% to please him. There’s no winning… …Until we explore the core of how we approach EVERY relationship in our lives: through attachment style. Krispin Mayfield and I explore healing our attachment to God: - Why your faith struggles are likely not a lack of character but a result of poor theology (that you had no choice in learning) - What attachment theory is and the three types of attachment - How the three attachment types play out (with examples) - A horrifying experiment that explains a lot of our freak-outs - The connection between self-loathing and pleasing God (in most Christian communities) - What’s so magical about getting things right only 30% of the time - Resources for healing your attachment to God (see below) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/198 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.6	Welcome to episode 198 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:27.0	A couple of months ago, I bought a book on Amazon called Attached to God.
0:32.0	And I do not remember what rabbit hole I was exploring
0:35.4	when I found it.
0:36.9	I don't remember if someone recommended it or what,
0:40.1	but I bought it.
0:41.9	And I buy a lot of books. I probably buy one to two books every week and I always start them and if they entreat they have to really hook me in otherwise I just I discard them. I just feel like I don't have time to waste on a book that I don't like so I'll buy them and I start them and I when I bought this one I could not put it down I finished it in a week and then I wrote to the
1:06.4	author who I'm going to introduce you to in a second to see if you'd be interested
1:09.6	in coming on the show and today's interview is the result. So Crispin Mayfield is the author of
1:15.0	attached to God and he is a licensed professional counselor. He also co-hosts
1:19.8	a podcast called The Prophetic Imag imagination station. Is this an
1:25.2	illusion to Adventures in Odyssey? Yes, it's an illusion to Walter Bergaman.
1:31.7	Is this like Old Testament theologian wrote a book called the
1:36.0	prophetic imagination and so we tied that with like adventures in Odyssey and yeah that is hilarious a lot of fun.
1:44.6	Okay so you and your wife do it?
1:46.8	Yeah and basically we're like looking at evangelical media that we grew up with. So we started with Adventures in Odyssey, we looked at like this
1:56.4	present darkness, right now we're going through a DC Talk album, you know, so yeah, it's a lot of fun.
2:05.0	That is hilarious.
2:05.9	Okay, so I would have been immersed in all of, I graduated in 85.
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