Would you play a card game with a cheater? Once maybe, right? Then, it’s a solid H-E-double-hockey-stick no. What about for a month? A year? Five years? Twenty? Would you tell your daughter to play with a cheater? Your best friend? I’m gonna guess the answer is “abso-freaking-lutely not!” So why do we think we “owe” a husband who has shown himself to be abusive any more of our precious time? In this episode, I answer listener questions: - Should you give more time to an abusive husband if you “knew better” (you were married to an abuser before and thought you’d chosen better this time)? - Should you give more time to an abusive husband if you realized what he was shortly after getting married? - What are some really covert emotional abuse tactics that may not be obvious in a short-term relationship? - Which person do you need to be in love with once you start dating/considering marriage again? (It’s not the person with a wiener.) - Why is self-love stupid, selfish, and unbiblical? (Risks of believing this include but are not limited to getting run over again and again by other people until you’re almost dead and spending years of your life feeling miserable) - When and why should you share your “side of the story” with others? Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/199 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com