Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery, BTR.org. I'm Anne. I'm sure you remember what it was like when you were searching for help, maybe for your husband, hoping to find the right program or therapist. That's why I started podcasting. I supported my husband through seven years of pornography addiction recovery and not one therapist during that time told me I was experiencing emotional

and psychological abuse and sexual coercion. I didn't want any other woman on the planet to be in

the dark. If you're like the majority of my listeners, you're experiencing the type of abuse that's

invisible and difficult to wrap your head around. Your husband is using porn or having

affairs or lying to you, and you're getting the same bad advice about how to improve communication

or your relationship. If you need support from women who totally understand, check out our daily

group session schedule at BTR.org slash group. We'd love to see you in a session today. One simple, anonymous way to help spread the word

is to click, follow, or subscribe to the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast on your favorite

podcasting app. While you're there, every five-star rating helps make this podcast more visible

and will help save other women from getting the wrong kind of help, like a couple

program that will make this type of abuse worse. For those of you who follow or subscribe to this

podcast, thank you so much. Your support means so much to me. I have a fellow she-ro on today's

episode. We're going to call her Cassandra. She was a victim of betrayal trauma in two different

relationships with two different men who both identified as sex addicts. She mentions that in group

she heard several women tell stories of how they were coerced sexually by their husbands.

Now, in group, we don't share graphic details, so it's an emotionally safe place for everyone.

But I want to talk about maybe some of the reasons why someone's stomach might hurt during sex or sex might just hurt in general. A lot of women are

having pain in various places when they're having sex. And yet when they go to the doctor,

there's no issue. There's no infection. There's no anything. And they can't really figure out what's going on. So let's talk about

five possible reasons. Number one, sexual coercion and marital rape are hard to identify. So when

infections and things have been ruled out, sometimes women are told that it's all in their heads and they're just stressed out

and they need to relax, but rarely does a doctor or anyone else ask a woman if she's being

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