Why do women cancel first and second dates if I don't stay in contact in between after setting it up?

So if that is happening, typically it's women don't cancel dates with guys they really like.

They cancel dates with guys they're not that into.

And but the caveat with that is that if it's online dating and you never met them or maybe you

talk to her for like three minutes in the grocery store and got her number and then you set a

date like a week in advance it all depends on your level of rapport and I talk about this in the

book so if you have a lot say you met her you're at your friend's barbecue in the weekend and you met this really cool girl there and you talk about this in the book. So if you have a lot, say you met her, you're at your friend's barbecue in the weekend, and you met this really cool girl there, and you talk for like 45 minutes to an hour. You had a great time together. You got her number. You made a date. She's excited. She's going to keep that date. But if you talk to her, you met her in the mall for like three minutes and then you're setting a date four or five days in advance.

Unless she's super into you.

One of the ways you can address that is like, you know, maybe three or four hours for the date in the afternoon.

You could say, hey, I'm running behind today.

So, you know, say you're supposed to meet at 7 o'clock.

Say, hey, can we push it back to 7.30? I got jammed up with schedule. Does that work for you? And if she says, yes, that's great, then cool. If she goes, oh, I didn't hear from you. I made other plans. Like, no problem. We can get together some other time. See it just like that. And yeah great some other time is perfect that communicates low interest if you say let's get together some other time

she may back up and say well i can keep it or i can make it or if she really wants to see you or if you she'll say no no no when are you available if she likes you she'll want to

reschedule and if she doesn't when you just say some other time that gives her an easy out to

bounce because the reality if the girl really likes you and you had rapport with her she'll keep

the date and if you met online and you really haven, she'll keep the date. And if you met online

and you really haven't even talked on the phone, which I don't recommend, but you're making dates, then you should be meeting for drinks either the next day or the day after that. But if you're kind of ify on the rapport, I would try to, you know, just send the message about pushing the date back a half hour and say,

does that work for you?

Because if she really doesn't want to see you, you don't want to waste your time or your money going out with her.

So this makes it easy for her to dip out on you if she has low interest.

Because you want to go out with a girl that's excited to see you.

Well, what if they have a really demanding job, for instance, like

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