When parents say to me, what did we do wrong?

I said, well, don't assume that the decisions your parent, your adult children are making are because you did wrong.

God's first two children went wrong.

And they had a perfect father.

Now, if you recognize that there's some ways you failed your children, fine.

You go apologize to them.

That bonds you to them when their

mother or father owns their sin and their mistakes and says, I'm sorry. Yeah, absolutely.

All right, we've got Gary Chapman in here. Yay! It's always a good day. The guy that wrote

the three love languages or the 18 love languages or, wait, wait. How many is it, Gary? Five. Depends on who you talk to. I like five. Yeah, I think five is the magic number. All I know is I think every time Gary comes in, we've talked to you so many times.

Surely we're not going to learn anything new.

Every time, I'm blown away by the gold, Gary, that you bring us.

Dr. Gary Chapman is like a renowned author, a father, a grandfather, a husband.

He's the best. You are the best. And I'm not kidding about that. Every time I'm inspired that we're with you. Thank you. I'm glad. Let's hope it happens today. We'll see. Yeah, well, today we're talking about adult children, your new life with adult children, and it is a new life. Yes. As we know, talk about your kids. How old are they, grandkids? Oh, now listen, I can't believe. You can't say their age, probably. My daughter, can't say their age. Well, maybe you can. Of course you. We want you to. My daughter is 60. I can't believe that. Wow. We had it when we were four years old.

Yeah. My daughter is 60. I can't believe that. Wow. We had it when we were four years old.

And my son is four years younger than that. So they're grown. Yeah. We do have grandchildren who are, well, they're both out of college now. They're my daughter's children. My son and his wife don't have children. But yeah, so we've got a small family, but we love, and we have good connections. And, you know, I wrote a book

years ago called Things I Wish I'd known before we had had children. Yeah. And the first chapter

is, I wish I had known that no two children are alike. Yeah. Isn't that true? Oh, because our daughter at eight years old, she said, I'm going to be a doctor when I grow up. And she never wavered. In high school, she took three years of Latin and four years of chemistry. She said that at eight? Yeah, in high school. At eight years old, she said that. My son, all over the chart. He said about her, her name's Shelley. He said,

She's going to miss out on a lot of life. She's just too focused. And you have to figure out how to

parent both. Absolutely. Absolutely. And that's true when they're young. It's also true when

they're older. Carrie, I thought when they're older it would be so easy.

And it's not. We thought we were done. And we are done as parents. We'll talk about that. But it's a different type of stress. Oh, yeah. In some ways, a lot worse because when they're kids, I mean, babies, you're like, I got to protect them. And it's so hard. And then it gets older. you're like, it's harder.

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