I amma I ama I had a baby daddy relationship I spent time in a relationship with a

married man I had to learn the skills and tools required to make my relationships healthy,

fulfilling, and loving.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland

audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. If you are just joining us, my guest today is Ace Metaphore, host of tonight's conversation on YouTube, and we are dishing up a relationship

soup talking about many of the things that we women talk about when there's no man in the room.

I hope you are out there taking notes because my guess is truly offering some things

that we as women,

regardless of our age,

we need to take this in and consider it.

One of the things that I find so interesting about Ace is that he's telling on himself.

He's telling on the Brotherhood of Men and more important he is telling on women.

If you have never listened to or seen his show,

please put that on your to-do list.

I knew I wanted to have him as a guess when I heard him say this.

Toxic men want a good woman too.

He said, is the man coming into your life to elevate you or is he coming to deplete you? You see

your good qualities are attractive to all men, the good men and the toxic ones too. Now that right there is the

hallelujah truth. Let me get back to my conversation with Ace Metaphore.

You got a woman at home, you got a woman at home, you got kids maybe, or you're in a decent relationship,

you all don't fight, you like each other, you're still doing the wild thing every now and then why what is the thought what happens do you just see the woman and you say I gotta have that or or does something happen? Tell me, talk to me about cheating.

Okay, first cheating is the lack of boundaries.

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