Why Certain Relationships Work

the goop podcast

Gwyneth Paltrow

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Education

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🗓️ 7 January 2020

⏱️ 53 minutes

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“Conflict is really what sharpens our ability to love,” says John Gottman, PhD, who is the cofounder, with his wife Julie, of the Gottman Institute for relationships. (They’re also coauthors of the new book, Eight Dates.)Today, they join Elise Loehnen to share the tools for communication and conflict resolution that make a relationship work. We learn about perpetual issues—and how to talk about them in a way that’s productive, instead of pushing them aside. Which doesn’t mean we get to change our partners—when we try to do this, problems tend to follow, say the Gottmans. “You don’t want to fall in love with who they want to be,” says John. “You want to fall in love with who they are.” And, according to the Gottmans, you want to build a wall around your relationship—rather than a wall between you and your partner. Oh, and find six seconds to make out every day. (For more, see The goop Podcast hub.) To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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0:00.0	Thanks for listening to the Goop podcast.
0:05.6	Today's episode is made possible by our friends at Polestar.
0:10.9	Over the last several years we've seen a lot of innovation in the electric vehicle space.
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0:41.7	To learn more about the new Polestar 3 and Polestar's commitment to sustainability, head
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0:53.8	Hi, Elise Loonon here, co-host with Gwyneth of The Goop Podcast.
0:57.6	I'm honored to be sitting down today with John and Julie Gottman.
1:01.7	This conversation was a long time in the making.
1:09.7	When the chaos around the holidays comes to a close, it feels really good to start the
1:13.7	new year on the right foot.
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