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Flying Free

Why Being Rejected by Your Church and Family Hurts So Bad [186]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

5.01.1K Ratings

🗓️ 30 August 2022

⏱️ 40 minutes

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Summary

“I don’t think I’ll ever heal from this,” she said. “You expect harm from people who only harm you. From him. Not the ones who know you, who grew up with you, who you went to church with.” Do you know the pain of rejection by your family, friends, and church? I do. I’ve lost entire nights of sleep swimming in that pain. It’s mind-numbing. Excruciating. A listener told me that after being rejected by her church and family, she felt like she was standing on an alien ship watching her home planet being blown up. Then she asked the questions you might be wondering too: How do we survive such great loss? Is there any healing for grief that goes deeper than your bones? Hurts that nearly fracture your body? Yes, dear one. But the truth is that as painful as the facts are, your hurt is increased 100 fold by the story you’re telling yourself about it. And the meaning you’re giving that story. From one heart-weary woman to another, here’s the scoop on the most important story of your life..and the secret to changing it. Because rejection hasn’t ended the good of your story. Not by a long shot. In this episode: - A prickly cactus, Jesus getting slapped, lots of Pirate’s Booty, and 8 billion people. If that’s not enough to tickle your fancy… - How what happened (the facts) and what we make it mean ( the story) creates our emotions (pain) - Why beliefs create the result (often extra pain) - The way to discover what you believe (the whole story) - 2 things that have helped me after losing most of my relationships (based on things I CAN’T lose) - How Jesus’ pain and his responses are great examples for us to follow - The one relationship you have from which all other relationships flow (SURPRISE: It’s not with God) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/186 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

Transcript

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free

0:10.2

podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden

0:16.6

emotional and spiritual abuse.

0:21.4

Welcome to episode 186 of the Flying Free Podcast. Today we're going to be talking

0:27.8

about the overwhelming pain of rejection and loss of relationships that comes when we begin to wake up to abuse and

0:35.8

stand up for ourselves.

0:37.8

The people around us aren't used to us showing up in this way and many times they will reject us if we don't lay back down and

0:45.1

just go back to taking responsibility for everything and everyone. Now our topic

0:50.9

today has a listener question and then I'm going to give you some things to consider

0:55.2

and think about when it comes to this kind of pain. So let's listen to the question first.

1:01.7

Hi Natalie, this is first. Hi, Natalie.

1:04.0

This is my question.

1:09.0

Reckoning with the loss,

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such a great loss of family and community.

1:18.1

It just seems insurmountable.

1:45.0

You know, I've been divorced now for everything, all of my community. It's almost like standing on a Star Wars ship and as an alien and a visitor on the ship and

1:52.1

watching your whole planet blow up and you're the last survivor.

1:58.3

And I really don't know how to do that.

2:08.5

By all my counseling, even by you.

2:10.5

I mean, we're made for community.

2:12.2

God created us for community, for family made for community. God created is for community for family for

2:14.4

relationships and when every relationship is destroyed.

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