How to Know If Your Christian Dating Relationship is Toxic [185]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Spiritual, Narcissism, Self-improvement, Marriage, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Christian, Divorce, Christianity, Education

5.0 • 1.1K Ratings

🗓️ 23 August 2022

⏱️ 30 minutes

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Summary

As terrible as being married to an abuser is, there’s something worse. It’s getting free from your abuser, then getting remarried to another one. For a lot of survivors, that’s their worst fear. Can they trust themselves to identify red flags when they were taught to dismiss them for so long? Will they be able to see past the BS if a potential suitor is slick and smooth but a turd of a guy underneath the facade? How can they be sure they’re choosing a safe, truly good person, not a Dr. Jekyll / Mr. Hyde? I know that fear all too well. And I trust myself to choose good people now. (I did; I’m remarried to one.) I’ve also taught hundreds upon hundreds of women how to spot red flags in relationships. By the time you listen to this episode, you’ll know whether your Christian dating relationship (or any dating relationship) is toxic. The seven deal-breakers: - Cannot accept negative feedback - Little or no empathy - Has to have his own way - Communicates passive-aggressively (plus 14 EXAMPLES/QUESTIONS to help you identify passive-aggressive behavior) - Prioritizes his own interests (including not respecting your time, refusing to be honest or discuss his past, bad with money, a boundary-breaker, and other examples) - Won’t take responsibility for his behavior (plus 5 EXAMPLES/QUESTIONS to help you see whether this is true about him) - He consumes you; the relationship is slowly destroying your self-worth, your friendships, your potential, and your interests (plus 3 QUESTIONS to ask yourself to know if this is true) Listen or download the transcript at flyingfreenow.com/185 FREE: I'll send you the first chapter of my book, Is It Me? Making Sense of Your Confusing Marriage. Just hop on my mailing list at flyingfreesisterhood.com/free-download. (I will NEVER spam you or sell your information.) Desperate for real help and safe people who understand what you're going through? Find out about my online education and support program for women of faith at joinflyingfree.com And, if you are an already divorced Christian woman who wants to take back her life and get healthy, have amazing relationships, build a business or career, or even find a good man - check out joinflyinghigher.com

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying Free Now, and you're listening to the Flying Free
0:10.2	podcast, a support resource for women of faith, looking for hope and healing from hidden
0:16.6	emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:21.6	Welcome to episode 185 of the Flying Free Podcast.
0:27.0	Today I'm doing something a little bit different.
0:30.3	Several years ago I wrote an article on my blog that ended up being the well you know I'm going to actually explain this in the recording that I'm going to play for you so I guess I shouldn't do it right now but I have this blog article okay it's called's called Seven Deal Breakers in Christian Dating
0:44.0	Relationships and it's pretty popular. It's one of, it's the most well read, or most read blog article on my website.
0:50.9	And I decided to make a video, a YouTube video of me basically reading through it.
0:56.2	I add a few little things in there.
0:58.8	And then I thought, you know what, I'm going to actually publish this on my podcast too because this article is written many
1:04.8	years ago a lot of there's way more people on my mailing list now and people who
1:11.6	have never even heard of this blog post but I decided that I was going to make a video on YouTube
1:16.8	and a lot of people don't like videos they actually prefer audio
1:20.0	so I'm actually going to give it to you guys too.
1:22.6	It's about 26 minutes long.
1:24.2	It's a perfect amount of time for a podcast episode.
1:27.8	So without any further ado, here is the recording
1:31.5	from the video on YouTube that I have as well as the article on my blog post called
1:38.3	Seven Dealbreakers and Christian Dating Relations, but I'm going to call this episode, how to know if your Christian
1:44.0	relationship is toxic.
1:47.0	Hi, I'm Natalie Hoffman. I'm an author, educator, and advocate for Christian women in abusive relationships.
1:56.0	Several years ago I got a question from an unmarried Christian woman who is
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