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The New Man

Why Being Perfect Makes Us Weak — Alyson and Tripp Lanier

The New Man

Tripp Lanier

Business, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Entrepreneurship

4.6643 Ratings

🗓️ 19 January 2026

⏱️ 39 minutes

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Summary

Whether it’s your looks, your job, or whatever — do you feel a lot of pressure to get it right? Do you ever beat the hell out of yourself for making a mistake? And if we all know that no one’s perfect, then why do so many of us think we should be? Today Alyson and I dig into perfectionism: how we get wired for it, why we let it abuse us, and why striving to get it right makes it harder for us to have what we truly want in life.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2026/01/perfectionism-makes-us-weak   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? “This Book Will Make You Dangerous” is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Transcript

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0:00.0

Before we start the show, I want to thank the thousands of you, the thousands who have read.

0:06.6

This book will make you dangerous. Many of you have told me that the book's unique way of exploring

0:11.1

fear, confidence, and purpose has had a lasting impact, that it's much easier for you to get

0:17.2

clarity and direction about what really matters and what you want to do in this lifetime.

0:23.1

It's also amazing to hear that quite a few of you have read it multiple times and even bought

0:27.7

copies for friends. So thank you again. Just in case you weren't aware, I created a free companion

0:33.6

video course for the book. And in these videos, I walk you through the big takeaways and practices

0:38.9

from each chapter. And I even cover some extra stuff that's not included in the book.

0:43.8

Information on how to access the course is in newer versions of the book. And if you own an older

0:48.6

version of the book and you don't know how to access the course, just hit me up via the contact

0:53.0

form at triplinear.com and we'll get you all

0:55.7

set up. And one last thing, if you're one of the thousands who have already read the book,

1:00.4

please consider leaving an honest review on Amazon so that others can decide if it's right for them.

1:05.5

Again, thank you so much for reading this book will make you dangerous, and now let's start

1:10.0

the show. but if you think

1:13.3

about what we're trying to solve for and that's in that frame of mind of having control and having

1:18.4

it be right is we want to fucking relax we want peace we want to know that we're okay yeah and

1:25.5

there's whatever that deep okayness is like there's you're okay you are. Not you're okay once you've checked all the boxes. Yes. But you're okay as you are. The theory is if I get it exactly right, then I'll be accepted. Then I'll have control. Then I'll have certainty. And they're solving for this equation that can never

1:45.2

be solved right if they're worried about all that but if we can see that and come back and say

1:51.7

what what's so unacceptable about you right now and we might find that that piece can be found

1:56.9

here in the moment yeah and when we can that, then the world becomes more playful.

2:03.3

You are listening to the new man, beyond the macho jerk and the new age wimp.

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